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Moving DH into memory care
I have made the decision to move my DH into a memory care facility. I have 2 choices, one in my town and one in the city in another state where my daughter lives. After looking at the pros and cons, I will make the choice of which place. But my question to all of you who have moved your LO into a facility, how did you go…
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OT--baby whale
A whale calf was born on camera a few days ago. I can't give a link, but you can search "baby whale Dana point". It may lift your spirits for a moment. Iris
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Furniture suggestions
DH enjoys his big man lazy boy chair but it is fabric and now that he is incontinent it is difficult to maintain. The chair has electric controls. The other issue is that he is having difficulty getting out of it. I think it is too low for him. He is 6’4” tall. I would like to get him a new chair that is easily cleaned,…
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Stop caring?
I don't expect much positivity in the new year because it will be another year of constant crying, emotional outbursts and thoughts that make no sense. She never stops. I think the only way to get through another year of this is to stop caring so much. Never gives me five minutes to myself. . . I'm past burnout. Even when…
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OK...Glass Half Empty
I am so mad at myself for being such a Pollyanna. Every time I get knocked down, I jump up and try to fid another solution. I look at the glass half-full and then when something doesn't work out I am devastated...but I tell myself not to give up. Well, I am about to throw in the towel. I am more than exhausted and I just…
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2022 National Strategy to Support Family Caregivers
https://acl.gov/CaregiverStrategy https://acl.gov/sites/default/files/RAISE_SGRG/NatlStrategyToSupportFamilyCaregivers.pdf
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The Global Council on Brain Health (GCBH) examined the impact of delirium
https://www.aarp.org/content/dam/aarp/health/brain_health/2020/03/gcbh-delirium-report-english.doi.10.26419-2Fpia.00101.001.pdf
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Bridge Over Troubled Waters
Listening to Simon and Garfunkel's "Bridge Over Troubled Waters" and can't stop crying this morning. Must be getting a migraine because I become either agitated or sappy, sometimes both. Grateful for Imitrex
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EOAD caregiver of spouse
Although I am not new to this forum this is my very first post/comment. I am also dealing with a spouse with early onset Alzheimer's. I saw symptoms for years but he absolutely refused to see a doctor. He said it was "typical aging" memory loss. He finally went into see a neurologist at my insistence and had testing last…
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Tearful, yet beautiful song.
Garden of Remembrance by Fish Copy and paste address below into web browser. https://g.co/kgs/NWzmkD It’s a New Year, I can’t say happy while he’s imprisoned in his mind.
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DW wants to leave memory care when I visit her
Hello everyone, This is my first post since my wife was accepted in a memory facility last week. The diagnosis is dementia with recommendations to care for her in memory care for the rest of her life. I am pleased with the facility and the support, but every time I visit her she begins to pack her belongings and wants to…
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CARING FOR PEOPLE WITH MEMORY LOSS
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Feels like whiplash
My DH is in early stages, or so I think. Days go by and he seems fine or at least stable, then he says something that startles me, like asking whether our oldest daughter is married (wedding was 3 years ago). He has no memory of the events and showing photos of the event didn't help him remember at all. Is the memory gone…
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Apathy question
Have any of you experienced apathy with your spouse diagnosed with Alzheimer’s?
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Medicaid planner verses elder law attorney
Hello All, With my DH getting harder to take care of, I'm looking into long term care instead of caregiving at home. With our financial status, I'm pretty sure he can qualify for medicaid. I'm not sure if I should contact a Medicaid planner or an elder law attorney. What are your suggestions?
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Where do you imagine yourself in a year's time?
Last New Year's Eve, I certainly didn't foresee all that has happened this year. Impossible to know, of course, but if I had to guess, I suspect my partner won't be alive in another year's time. I imagine feeling relief and sadness, both, and am already ready to sell the farm and downsize. I want mercy for her, for the…
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Questions on respite help
Has anyone used the respite for caregivers thru their supplement insurance? My husband follows me everywhere I go, and I've mentioned to him that someone will come and stay with him a few hours while I take some time to myself. I can tell he's going to throw a fit when I actually leave the house. I'm just wondering how the…
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Tell me about your hero
Mine is my daughter, Jennifer. She has two auto immune diseases. She is in pain every day, and she drives to Chicago to see a specialist. If she is late for an appointment, it is cancelled, and she has to wait some time before she can get in to see him. She can't afford to miss an appointment. Not long ago. she was in a…
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Horrifying tale of the Aduhelm approval
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A few benefits for older people
https://www.elderlawanswers.com/highlights-of-how-the-omnibus-bill-will-benefit-older-adults-19401
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Incontinence(7)
Well, we have hit a new low with this disease.............DH is now developing horrid toileting habits. He is wearing diapers all the time as he wets himself during the day and night. He pees all over the bathroom floor. Will go in the foyer and pee, yesterday went on my side of the bed and peed all over the carpet. Acts…
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urine under recliner on carpet
Okay I knew if anyone would have the answer you would. Google fell short. My DH's recliner is on carpet, After a major bout with Aspiration Pneumonia I have realized that his disposable underwear only holds so much. Didn't realize you could pee that much when you were that dehydrated. I keep learning way more than I ever…
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GPS plus fall detection
I have no idea how any of this works, but I just saw where Moto (Motorola) has a smart watch that has GPS and fall protection for $99.00. Thought it might be of interest to some of you. https://gadgetsandwearables.com/2022/12/30/moto-watch-100-fall-detection/
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husband convinced all food expired so won't eat
Hello, feeling so alone and discouraged today as my husband (early onset Alzheimer's, stage 5-6) is refusing to eat anything and he's slipping more and more into his own skewed reality, talking to imaginary adversaries and acting agitated and angry, new behaviors over the past few weeks. Have nowhere to turn so thought I'd…
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Sudden onset of urinary incontinence after taking Risperdone
My DH is refusing meds and his psychiatrist suggested switching from Seroquel to Risperidone gradually so I can dissolve it in his drink. On the second day of taking Risperidone, my DH wet his pants THREE times, the last one at our friend’s house. Needless to say, I am stopping Risperidone immediately! Has this happened to…
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DH is hateful all the time
Since the onset of this diease, my husband is continually getting more hateful. There is no pleasing him. He is angry all the time. Is anyone out there had the same issues? Are there any meds that help with the anger and acting up?
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GUILT, GUILT, GUILT
This is something we commonly see on the forum. It will drag you down if you let it. I just found a good video that you might find helpful. Why Do Caregivers Feel Guilt?
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Just need to talk to my friends (184)
Hi, Thought I'd do this before 183 went too long - it's been 21 days which is longer than usual - and we've been a talkative bunch of people - love that! I've looked and looked and couldn't find what you all were talking about with Jo's nephew. What happened? Marie - I think we were posting about the same time when you…
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Where I or it’s at
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Relieving himself when unsupervised - not on the toilet
My DH has for the past few weeks at his MC, been relieving himself on the bathroom floor, bedroom rug, and twice now has gone #2 on the rug. He does wear depends. The caregivers say they ask him every 2 hours to use the bathroom, but he still does this, and the room smells so bad. They clean the rugs and floor every day,…