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cat burglar
So DH is in stage 6 and has a tendency to wander at night. He tries to go to work,( he was a milkman for over 40 years). He has gathered random stuff and bring it outside leaving it on the sidewalk. So, I have bought door stop alarms for the front and back doors. They not only stop the door from opening, but set off an…
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Resistant to testing and willing to see a Neurologist
My DW had some serious medial issues in 2019-2022 timeframe. At the time, we thought it was related to multiple UTIs and Duloxitine that had be prescribed for her. She got lost driving a couple of times, forgot what day it was, and peridocially who I was. We saw a doctor who started treating her UTIs and a Neurologist who…
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SEPARATED for years from spouse - now has EO ALZ Dementia at 64
Anyone out there dealing with this? I'm investigating for my BF who overwhelmed. There is so much material for caring spouses, but not for former partners The situation: She lives alone, (just retired) is not close to her siblings, has no best friend. One adult daughter nearby. She and my BF have been separated for years,…
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How's Jo C and Son doing, also M1
Got on here again to find out how my friends are doing! And I mean friends, just like the other fellowship I belong to. Also Toolbeltexpert after his loss. I care a lot about everybody on here. Made sweet and sour chicken Sunday from scratch, turned out the best yet. At 81 years old I'm doing pretty good. To the newer…
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What does Medicade actually take care of when it comes time to need them???
If Medicade steps in what do they take care of financially? This is concerning to me.
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BladderInfection: how to capture urine
I think my loved one has a bladder infection. She is double incontinent and unable to urinate in toilet. Doctor won't give prescription without a test first. I heard there is a pad to place in pull ups. Anyone know of this product or another way? She is so agitated.
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Deja vu symptoms
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Can you determine by behavior what type of dementia your loved one has?
My DH has been diagnosed with mild to moderate unspecified dementia. He is definitely in the moderate stages right now. He is hypersexualized, always grabbing at me and wanting sex. He is also accusing me of infidelity, and today I found him searching through my phone for evidence. Of course, there is no evidence, but even…
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Alzheimer's is revealing the dark underbelly of my husband's psyche
At times it seems the Alzheimer's has taken all the good parts of my husband's soul and left him with his (formerly hidden) demons of low self esteem that I recognize from the dark side of spending 50 + years of my life with him. These days he is certain people are excluding him or ignoring him or don't like him and he…
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Wife resistant to outside caregiver
My wife is in the moderate stage of AD- increasing confusion, impaired memory and judgment, needs some assistance with meds, etc. I am her full time caregiver and would like to bring in an aide 1-2 times per week for companion, light housekeeping, and my need to get out for short periods. She is adamant and triggers easily…
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Man of few words, but when he speaks its a doozy
So, my beloved is mainly non-verbal these days. Aphasia sneaked up on us in the last year or 2 I guess, until the noticeable decline/progression was suddenly a deafening silence. Not that long ago it seems I was saying (to myself), "aarghh would you please STOP talking just for a minute?!" How I miss those days sometimes…
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Need help and advice for incontinence
Hello Everyone! what was once in a while, is now non stop urinary incontinence. Using overnight padded underwear - did not work. At least the brand I am using. I fear the ADS will kick him out again as they bringing it to my attention. I am checking all his meds go this side effect. Thought it could be the Lexi pro. But it…
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Life is just one endless round of show and tell
Hello, fellow travelers. I am posting about something that I'm dealing with that I have not seen posts about before. DH was Dxd 6/21; I estimate him as mid-stage 5 now. In the early days post-diagnosis, he scribbled furiously in little notebooks, trying to hold onto names and memories of things (he was a physician). Now,…
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Doesn’t know I’m his wife?!?
Hi all - new to this - need help in a lot Of ways but the one thing I want to know how to deal with is answering the question my husband has frequently “where is my wife? How can I contact her!” I’m his wife of 54’years and tell him that but not doesn’t seem to matter?
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night time wanderings. How do you handle it?
Last night my husband got up 11 times between 2am and 6am, turned on all the lights each time, tried to get dressed, moved random things around the house. By the 7th time I was in an absolute rage. It doesn't matter if I'm kind or angry, sensible or insistent, the behavior just continues and good grief I need some sleep!…
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He did it again and I lost my cool.
My DH has been showing signs of anger and agitation pretty frequently around the issue of driving. As background, we took his car away about a year ago, and I'm so afraid he'll try to drive mine that I'm literally sleeping with the keys under my pillow, and showering with them in the drawer in the bathroom. He insisted…
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My Big Mouth
My need to occasionally beat myself is here again! Lucky me and you all. Since I moved my DW to her dream home from the Bay Area to a remote fishing village, I've really struggled with her family completely ignoring her. They claim to be a super close family and she's the oldest of 6. The youngest sister basically controls…
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Dementia and sleep apnea
Do any of your loved ones have sleep apnea? I know untreated apnea increases risk of dementia and that the general recommendation is that cpaps continue to be used for PWD to improve sleep. DH is somewhere in stage 4. He always wore it religiously. All of a sudden he is having trouble tolerating the mask. I always suggest…
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Driving
So, was not driving at all, letting me drive while we waited for an OT driving eval… he passed, no idea how, he couldn’t even fill out the forms. Anyway, now it is a foot race to the car and a couple flat out arguments, where I say I dot. Want to go any more. he checks to see that he knows where is wallet and keys are…
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Refusing/protesting care from family members: what now?
I have been having more and more trouble with DH and anger and agitation. Yesterday he had a "meltdown" involving throwing objects around the room. It was awful for me. I was both frightened and angry myself. He's also had an episode where he turned something on (the self-clean feature, I think) on the range and called me…
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More on bogus scientific papers
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2024/feb/03/the-situation-has-become-appalling-fake-scientific-papers-push-research-credibility-to-crisis-point
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New to this site and Alz/Dementia info
My husband was just diagnosed with Mild Late Onset Alzheimer's w/Dementia with Mood Disturbance (depression/anxiety). I've been a mess, exhausted, frustrated, angry, then sad, isolate, alone... I'm in Los Angeles, CA and just hoping to reach out to anyone who could talk with me about all of this. Thank you!
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how do you say, "You have a form of dementia?"
Sometimes, in moments of clarity, after I've shown DW evidence of something that she's confused about, she'll say, "What's the matter with my brain? Why don't I know that?" Her medical record says she has Alzheimer's, but she says the people who evaluated her are a bunch of quacks, and she's pretty much in denial…
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When is it time to place someone who is in the late stages of EO Alzheimers?
I have a friend who is caring full time for her partner. He was diagnosed many years ago and she has been his sole caretaker (with the help of her children). He is nonverbal, has some anxiety, and needs round the clock care. I think the family feels guilt about placement which I completely understand. What kind of…
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Financial fears
My DH is in the earlier stages of this horrible disease. We have very good days and some not-so-good days but I know from reading all of your posts that this will get worse. I am completely committed to taking care of him until it is no longer possible. In order to do so, we have to sell our home (also a bed and breakfast)…
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New Here with a Wife With Dementia
My wonderful wife of 50 years has developed dementia and is in the early to intermediate stages of the disease. She has no short-term memory and is suffering from incontinence. She loves to walk, but cannot be more than a few feet from the house. Is anyone else dealing with this? She seems to be generally very happy,…
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Once more on driving
We all know that taking the keys is almost always one of the hardest things to do. We try to rationalize that letting them drive just in the neighborhood is the right thing to do. That way we don't take away their independence, and it keeps them less agitated. And we don't want the fight. But get this in your head. You are…
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When you think things can't get worse. . .
Like most mornings my DW is a mess and need to get her in the shower. It takes several minutes for the water to warm up on that side of the house so I start running the water in the faucets and tub while clean her first by hand. I guess it took longer for the preliminary clean up than usual and by the time I had her ready…
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How did you get through the diagnosis?
My partner has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, he is 72 and I’m 64. Three years ago last August I lost my 91 year old mother to Alzheimer’s after a 6 year battle and I have no illusions about where this disease is going. I don’t have any friends or family that has lost their beloved this way, apart from my father,…
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Early onset dementia
Anyone else living with a spouse with early onset dementia with kids at home? DH has just been diagnosed, although this nightmare journey started over a year ago. We thought he was suffering from depression and so he's been in intensive outpatient treatment for major depressive disorder. We have three children, ranging…