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Denial(6)
Our LO feels that he is getting better and doesn't need to see a doctor. Denies all symptoms. Any ideas on how to handle this or what to say. We don't want to discourage him but he is clearly not better.
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I am so done
My social worker is looking for a bed for my husband. It has been a few weeks and he has worsened. I thought poo in the sink was bad, now he just whips out the trouser squirrel and pees on the floor. I was gobsmacked when he first did it, I have now told him to just pee in the sink, hey it’s porcelain of sorts. Now I just…
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When to escalate care and experience with options
As may be seen in my profile, I myself am a physician, but work in a field (neonatology, newborn critical care) that is as far from geriatrics/Alzheimer's as can be, so I am as lost as anyone and perhaps feel a bit of added guilt about my lack of direction. We live just south of Boston. My wife is 69, diagnosed about 3…
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All the kings horses and all the kings men
Couldn't put Humpty Dumpty together again. Those are the words that went through my head yesterday morning when my DH came into the bathroom while I was getting dressed and was very upset. He kept asking, "Why am I in my underwear!? Why am I undressed!?" I couldn't make him understand that it was only 6:30 in the morning…
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Golf(1)
Does anyone know of a group of golfers with dementia/Alzheimer’s in the Roseville/Sacramento, CA area that my husband could join? He has dementia but would like to continue golfing.
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He's in Jesus' arms
My DH passed away Wednesday. Our kids are here and I have some family coming in for his service. It was a long goodbye since diagnosis almost 7 years ago. I feel sad, alone, and yet some relief. He's done suffering, but the love of my life is gone.
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Memory Care Roller Coaster
DH is going into his fifth week of out of home care in a licensed elder care family home. It is not really memory care, but the owner and staff have extensive experience with dementia residents. DH is very gradually settling in, but it has been sort of a roller coaster ride and I have never liked roller coasters. The…
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TV Remote options
DH has macular degeneration on top of the Alz, and is really having trouble with using the TV Remote. Wondering if someone has used a particular brand they can suggest. He can't see the buttons on the regular one, doesn't feel things well due to neuropathy, frequently/daily gets the wrong channel or disconnects the TV from…
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Need Advice - Bathroom Issue
I need advice on how to manage this issue. At dinner time my DH sits down to eat, takes a few bites, quickly stands up and announces he needs to go to the bathroom. He leaves the table and sometimes he goes to the bathroom and sometimes he just walks into another room and comes back to eat. Other times he goes outside,…
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Study of 500,000 Medical Records Links Viruses to Alzheimer's Again And Again
https://tinyurl.com/yckhkjzj
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Ideas for Brushing Teeth
i am looking for any ideas for getting DW to brush her teeth which has become increasingly difficult. For a while I have been trying to brush my teeth along with her so she could mimic what I was doing in the mirror but that is not really working anymore. I have tried to brush her teeth myself but she won’t allow me to do…
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sudden improvement?
My DH has Vascular Dementia (they labeled him mixed) and he had gotten to where he only drank a little and would only eat a couple of bites. Last Thursday all the sudden he started eating and drinking. He also wanted to get out of bed and wanted to get in the wheelchair and come into the living room. He still doesn't want…
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doesn't recognize home
DW broke hip in late November. After surgery she went to an inpatient ot and pt therapy facility for two weeks. After leaving there, she came to our home where we have lived for 22 years, but did not believe it was home. She continually wants to know when we are leaving there to go home. Hates where we are, has no…
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Guilt sending dad to MC
Hi everyone I am new here. My dad has dementia that has went to down hill since his hospital stay a few weeks ago for Covid. He lives at home with my sister and mom (who has mild dementia). He doesn’t sleep at night and has started turning the stove on (we have since removed the knobs). He also won’t shower without hitting…
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Beginning to see …
Last few weeks or maybe more I’ve seen a decline in DH short term memory ! Went for lunch today, a treat for sure, to a place we have been many time before and he has always enjoyed! We sit down, looking at the menu, and DH says to me I’ve never been here I hope it’s good. I didn’t say anything. After getting our lunch he…
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no family support
My DH has Vascular Dementia (diagnosed Mixed) and now Aspirational Pneumonia. After 1 week at the hospital, and 3 weeks at Rehab my DH will return home. Knowing that he will probably have another bout of this I talked to him on whether he would want to return to the hospital or die at home. He voiced to me that he would…
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At what stage did you give up on dental hygiene appointments
Yesterday I took my DH to the dentist for a hygiene appointment. For the two days prior to the appointment, he cycled repeatedly through all the terrible things that were going to happen -- they were going to remove half his jaw, they were going to take out all his gold inlays, etc. Constant reassurance that they were…
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extended travel?
We are considering a longer trip this summer that would be an international cruise. We are experienced travelers, but I wonder about disease progression. Right now, DH is somewhere in mild-moderate area...he doesnt drive but is physically capable of all daily activities, dressing, etc. He has trouble with his pills and…
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Big decision
I've decided to at least inquire whether I can move my partner to another MC facility. Essentially, it comes back to seeing if my first choice from last year will reconsider her. Despite three or four really good staff members with whom she is tightly bonded, she is just not thriving where she is; she is the most…
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Marijuana for aggression?
Has any caregivers had doctor prescribe marijuana for LO with agressive behavior? If so, did it help?
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Latest interview
Our latest interview with you for “Exploring Different Brains" is now released and viewable on our site differentbrains.org, and the podcast version and transcription are both available on the same page as the video. The podcast version is also available on: Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | SoundCloud The direct link to the 26…
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Memory Care(1)
Has anyone placed their spouse in memory care for up to 6 months, and after training and additional care providers were able to bring your spouse back home? My husband is in the middle stages and can still conduct his daily activities. By the way, does anyone know how to flip my profile photo so that it’s right side up?
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Another setback
DH has been in memory care since mid August 2022. He has fallen many times,had some seizure like events and many other problems.We live in NC and the intestinal flu has been rampant. Sure enough he got it and along with it, severe diarrhea and vomiting. Several of the med techs and aides got it and....I got it a few days…
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How old am I?
DH said he is an old fart. So I asked him why he said that. He replied because I feel old. Then he asked me if he is 57 or 58. I then said You are 81. He said WOW. Yes, wow! LOL no wonder he feels old. Oh my.
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When she's afraid
I came downstairs after taking a shower. I found my wife naked from the waist down, sitting in a laundry basket, and very frightened. She said something about people coming and taking everything and not leaving, some word salad, and something about the dogs. I got her calmed down, cleaned up, and then went to work on…
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It's over(2)
April 6, 2012: This was the day our lives changed forever with a stroke that eliminated all language, the day I lost all communication with my companion and husband since 1967. These almost 11 years have been a downward slope in every way, and now he's gone. One would think I'd be ready for his final breath, but I wasn't.…
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Stop them from driving - dirty tricks
1) Cause a police incident. Any interview during a traffic stop can generate a notation of concern by the officer, resulting in a letter from DMV requiring a competency test, making it not your fault. 2) Report your concern to the police expressing your concern, and ask for a police interview at your home. Claim ignorance…
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Tapping feet constantly
IS anyone dealing with LO tapping feet constantly? Over the last couple weeks my husband has started tapping his feet on floor constantly while sitting. It's grinding on my nerves. I just want to scream "STOP IT"!
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Here's a smile for you
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Just need to talk to my friends (186)
Morning, It's a better day - dreamed of my Charles last night. It's sunny but really windy. Toad and Mike came and fed the girls and I was able to see Gray Lady and her new baby, Chucky or Chas (that's what Charles' dad called him). Took down the trash and put a couple of cards in the mailbox even though there's no mail…