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Dementia with maniac
All, Just wanting to know, if your LO with Alzheimer's/dementia ever has episodes of mania? My husband has spells, where it's as though his mind is racing and his body can't keep up with his thoughts. The behavior seems more like a person with bipolar instead of dementia.
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Sobbing....
Hello everyone, Visited my dear husband today, when I walked in the aide was chastising my DH for supposedly grabbing his Ensure from her. He doesn't know what he's doing. She also refused to feed him (his lunch was practically untouched) saying "he ate a good breakfast". I asked her twice, but she took his lunch away and…
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Going Home(5)
First TIme, although i have read quite a bit of the posts. I have a tendency to ramble. I know there are not many solutions to the various situations encountered when assisting a person with dementia, but my hope is that someone has had similar experience and could provide suggestions. The day starts with “when are we…
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new symptom?
Okay my DH has vascular dementia. Today he got angry with the Hospice PA for the first time during his shower. Next several times with things she said and then later with things I said he has completely confused the things we said. I just asked him if he was through with lunch and he said why would he want soup? Through…
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It's a shame the public is so uneducated about dementia
It was a short while after my wife was diagnosed, that word got around pretty quickly. We went to a restaurant for lunch, and we knew all the waitresses there. When we went in, our waitress came to give us menus. My wife said "Hi Judy". A little later when I went to pay the bill, the waitress came over to me and said "She…
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any ideals on how to get hubbys DL out of his wallet.
I know how to replace it at the DMV I just don't know how to get it out of his wallet.He has his wallet chained to his pants and he sleeps in his pants, he hardly changes his pants and doesn't take a bath more then about 10 times a month. . when he does he changes his pants in the bathroom and won't let me near his pants.
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Gender by the numbers
I remember when I first joined this site, someone said it was nice to see a few men taking part as caregivers. There seemed to be almost all women here. But now it has changed, with many more men here. BUT ... if you look at statistics, more women than men are hit with dementia. Some places say as much as twice as many. So…
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Six month update on MCF placement
Sorry for the long post, but DW has now been in her MCF for six months so I thought I would provide an update. A reminder, I'm the guy who developed a deadly skin disease just as I placed DW in her MCF. I'm stabilized and should have it all under control soon. But our path through dementia seems different and much faster…
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Help for adult child who fears getting ALZ
DH is in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's disease. My children are supportive but is easily overwhelmed by his fears of also getting the disease. Does anyone know of any resources that would be helpful? We do know about seeking professional counseling help. I'm looking for anything to read (online or other) or support…
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floundering in stage 8
My DH Jesse passed away 4/5/22. I miss him more than I can explain. I have struggled with grief and the pain of losing my love and my best friend. Over the last several months, I have been able to reflect on happy times. I have been able to laugh out loud at our private jokes. I have been overwhelmed by the blessing of the…
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Dream - - or nightmare?
I hesitate to post this, but here goes: Early this morning, just before I awoke, I had a dream that for some unknown reason, I had brought DH home from his MCF to care for him. It was sheer chaos. Although DH was always “easy”, I was re-living the constant stress of caring for him 24/7. I was following him around,…
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Checking in - early March 2023
It's been awhile since I checked in about my DH - things had been going pretty smoothly. I guess I got used to the questions and short-term memory loss. Lately, there's been a change: The questions keep coming, and now he is super confused about the passage of time, arguing that things happened two months ago, when, in…
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Too Many Rum & Cokes
When we got over the hurdle of my DH accepting he was "retired" (he was angry at his boss, feeling he was fired when he should'nt have been). He starting enjoying "happy hour". I thought it was a good thing. It put him in a good mood. However, it has evolved into an all night thing with him drinking several rum and cokes…
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medicare and supplement ?
I have a quick question on Medicare and supplement insurance. I figured if anyone would know you guys would. My wife doesn't qualify for Medicaid our income level is about $100.00 over. Do you have to have a supplement insurance with Medicare? Since we live in OK and my wife is Native American and she is a tribal member,…
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Fidgeting Alternatives
Hello everyone. My wife is a perpetual fidgeter. She actually thinks she is doing productive work. What she is doing is taking things apart and "putting everything away". She is like a toddler on sugar sometimes and it is exhausting to constantly redirect her fidget energy. The kitchen has become her primary fidget space.…
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I just want to say Thanks to everybody
I'm Hoot and I just want to say a big Thank-you to everybody that had words of wisdom for me on my journey with with my wife with this disease. She passed on Sept. 27 and her suffering was over. I don't know how I would have made without you folks listening to me and telling me what to do. Lots of times I needed to unload…
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Relief from placement guilt
For those who’ve placed loved ones in facilities: Remember when and if guilt attempts to creep in to your psyche- you didn’t begin the business of abandonment, as you were first abandoned by your loved one advancing through the stages of Alzheimers. Every care giver and every Alzheimer’d individual has varying stories,…
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can't stop crying
My granddaughter mad me cry. Now I can't stop. I'm so tired of having to stay home to change my DH diapers, feed him and I just want to scream. I have no idea how long I will not have control over my own life. I know I will miss my DH but he is really already gone. He still recognizes me and I should be grateful for that.…
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Did we miss something in the beginning?
My wife's father died from Alz and I've always been told that by my wife so when she first started showing mild symptoms years ago we both just assumed. She didn't want to accept it, deal with it or go to the doctor about it and I didn't force her. Several years ago I made an appt with her PCP and since I had POA I was…
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If you haven't seen it......
Read the "Exciting News About Alzconnected" (one of the stickies on the main page). We're going to a new UI, so you should know what to expect.
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Question/Response I Can't Stand
"Does she still recognize you?" .... "Well, that's good." Ugh.
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Is it true? After Alzheimer’s…
I’m reading Patti Davis’s (daughter of Pres. Reagan) memoir, “Floating in the Deep End: How Caregivers Can See Beyond Dementia, and she asserts “that once Alzheimer’s enters your life, it never really leaves”. I’m wondering, for those of you have had a partner/spouse die what about it is still in your experience that might…
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How do I tell my husband he is going into a memory care unit?
We're at the point that I don't dare leave him at home. He still tries to help but he forgets what he's doing and doesn't finish. Or he does something wrong, like handwash dishes without soap. He doesn't think he is in such bad shape. There are times when he talks with me that he doesn't make any sense. They are words in…
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Starting in-home care. How many hours a week?
I know there are many of you who may have experience and wisdom on this topic. I am just now researching agencies to do in-home care for my DH who was diagnosed with mild dementia last December, after a diagnosis of MCI two years ago. He can still feed, dress, and toilet himself, but his needs and angry outbursts are…
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Dementia TV
I just came across this site. It is TV made for dementia, and looks really good. I don't have any first hand experience with it, but I think it's worth looking at. https://watch.zinniatv.com/browse https://watch.zinniatv.com/browse You can get a good idea of what it offers before signing up. Monthly price is $6.99, but if…
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nightmare of double incontinence
I woke up this morning to a major mess. My DH can't take a shower on his own. Thank heavens for Hospice. His bowel movement was everywhere. on his hands, all over his cup and on the rail of his bed. I did the best I could and now I'm waiting for Hospice to come shower him and I can clean the rest. What a nightmare that I…
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Interesting article about music and memory
https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/02/26/songs-music-memory-connection/
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Creative Kindness Dynamic From sunnydove
This approach was part of a Post on the Caregivers Forum; it is from Member, sunnydove. For some of our Loved Ones this can be applied to, it is a lovely idea: " . . . One thing I do with Mom all the time is thank her for her help. Often she's done absolutely NOTHING. But she doesn't know that. So if I have to put in a new…
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Save a few bucks on streaming
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