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Add me to DH credit card account ?
Is it a good idea to be added on to his American Express card? While paying bills, I was asked if he would like to have a additional member added to his card. Seemed like a good idea at the time. Yesterday a new card in my name with a new credit card number showed up. I don’t think I want to Activate it! However I would…
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When spouse dies
Hello, I know this topic has been discussed before, but I am having trouble finding the posts. My father-in-law (who lives with us) was admitted to in-home hospice care this week. In the past, we have gently told Mom (who lives in a memory care facility) that he has cancer, but lately he has been BRUTALLY honest with her.…
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How to visit MC facilities when I am the sole caretaker
I follow the posts on here that I can mostly relate to, but I do not post a lot after being attacked my first week on this site. That was some years ago but I still become stressed when I write something. This is not anyone's problem here, but mine. My question is, how do I visit MC facilities when I cannot leave my…
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PRICE OF GAS.
REGULAR---ARM PREMIUM--- LEG SUPREME-- BOTH
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Grief(6)
From the Washington Post today; Grief is an experience with no road map. Ask anyone who has lost an immediate family member about grief’s “five stages,” and you’re likely to get a shake of the head. No, grief is more akin to bushwhacking through a gnarly forest. Each of us needs validation that we can cry out from the…
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I lost it
I was working from home today. My husband keeps asking me for food but only eats a few mouthfuls. So I made him an omelet. He ate that. He wanted to go to bed so gave him his pills and got him into bed. He came downstairs, our bathroom is upstairs. He was naked even though I had asked him to keep his depends on. The…
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Wants to go home(2)
DW has said it before and tried to leave . But stopped her and she forgot what she was trying to do. Today she keeps saying she wants to go home. Made it out the door 3 times and I caught her 2 other times. Told her she lives her- no help there. Told her I was her husband and I thought she was mad before. I'm glad I have…
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Dental Blues
DH's upper partial plate broke about three weeks ago. I took him to the dentist and she took an impression and sent the broken plate to a dental lab in Kansas City (about 50 miles south of us) to be repaired. The next week, the plate came back so we went back to the dentist. The plate didn't even come close to fitting and…
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Yesterday was my birthday
Yesterday was my birthday and it ended up being a very good day! DH did not remember but a lot of friends and family did. I did remind DH of it and he remembered on and off during the day. Each time he was reminded of it or remembered, he told me Happy Birthday. Then he apologized for not remembering and for not buying me…
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JulieB46
Please get your husband to and Urgent care for a UTI test asap.
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A Crazy Week that Ends with Questions
Sorry for this long post that is long overdue: My DH has continued to progress. Many of you will remember he scored 13/30 on his MoCa in January so the neuro ordered a pet scan. We see the doc 4/13 to go over the results, but the online report says it showed Alzheimers. His behavior still suggests bvFTD as well. I am…
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If you are using the Wyze camera
You might want to read this. https://gizmodo.com/you-should-probably-stop-using-your-wyze-camera-right-n-1848731446
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Looking back, what were some of the first Red Flags you noticed with your LO??
How do you go about getting tested? Where do you start ?
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Pallative care for DW in or near hoag hospital newport Beach
Recently my daughter has been telling me to get a new Alzheimers Dr. We have had the same one for 9 years. My DW is in Stage 6-7 and the Dr has her tested with the word, pic tests each ime before we see him, every 3-4 months. My DW hates these tests and can answer almost nothing! He offers no palliative care or suggestions…
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Depression or Alzheimer’s?
Do you think when they stop playing games, reading magazines and watching favorite shows it is depression or Alz?
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Cataract surgery(3)
My dw had her cataract surgery today and she came through it, and there doesn't seem to be any side effects from the anesthesia. So greatful. They used Versed for anesthesia. As far as reminding her about her appointment, I started last night cause I had to scrub her eye lashes. This morning, I started telling her it was…
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What are the legal responsibilities of the person who has DPOA
My dad's brother (74) has DPOA over my dad (85) undiagnosed, and is executor over dad's trust. Dad's brother lives in another state and has a full/busy/happy life. I am very worried about my dad since an accident last year. He is having cognitive issues. I am overseeing mom's care and now trying to keep up with dad. He…
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ES advice for accepting diagnosis
DH was diagnosed with younger onset Alzheimer’s late last year. He is ES stage and does well on the surface but worries that others will detect that he is impacted. I have taken over most of the day to day and I want to give him the freedom to enjoy his time, but he struggles and argues with me if I try to take over. He is…
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A DNR read
https://www.vitas.com/hospice-and-palliative-care-basics/end-of-life-care-planning/does-hospice-require-you-to-sign-a-dnr
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Assisted living(4)
DH In nice assisted living facility. He went to ER as he wasn’t taking his meds for 5 days. He was literally driving me crazy. He takes them now from nurse. He does seem to be improving. After two weeks of craziness I have my first night at home. It was suggested by nurse at facility (thank you). Been talking to friends…
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What happened here today
The Saga continues. I joined the domestic violence club today, which of course changes everything. We had a nice day yesterday, but I noticed last night that my partner had once again fed the two outdoor cats 24 cans of food in 3 days. So while I have more stashed away, I didn't put it in its normal storage spot. When she…
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Help Taking Pills
My wife was diagnosed Sunday, for the second time in 90 days, with another UTI. The initial urinalysis was a moderate infection. Our primary care sent the sample for a culture. While we wait for the result our PA prescribed an antibiotic, Cefdinir 300 mg, at 2X per day for 5 days. She took 2 and now refuses to take more…
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DrinaJGB
Sorry, but I just saw your post from a couple of days ago. You said your husband was wetting the bed every night. I just wanted to pass this on to you. My wife was the same way your husband is, and I started using booster pads from Dry Direct. Following is a link to the ones we use. They are the booster pads, and they…
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Throwing in the towel on this relationship
I lost my mother two weeks ago. I cannot grieve because it upsets my HWD and he becomes agitated and violent. My HWD’s mother is on comfort care now. I am devastated about the loss of these two women. I tell my HWD about his mother’s condition and he says “She has done some bad things. Everyone gets old and dies.” That is…
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What I've learned
I noticed I joined this group in Sep. 2020 in the height of Covid and it got me thinking about what I have learned being here for a year and a half. First and foremost I have to say the biggest thing I've learned and which has been the most helpful is to not argue with the person with the disease because what most everyone…
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My take on Memory Care
I have been touring memory care facilities. I have found a $5000 range in prices for the highest level of care. There is such a wide variety. The one I thought I would like was the cheapest. It was clean and utilitarian but had very few activities. It would be a good choice for someone in the very late stages. The shared…
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FYI regarding DMV
Just wanted to share experience with DMV in Virginia and suggest that you might want to check your state for their actual rules on sale of vehicle. In Virginia you can title your vehicle either with "and" or "or" when it is put in two names. Until today, the understanding was that if "and", both parties listed had to sign…
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Need suggestions for early stage for 62 yr old DH
My DH was diagnosed last November with early to moderate stage dementia. He was put on meds which I monitor with all of his other medications. I also do the finances & he does not drive. There seems to be some progression in some paranoia & hallucinations (?!). I need some guidance & suggestions in how to respond instead…
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Forgetting/Confusion with People & Places - Is this the beginning?
My DH (age 61) was diagnosed early onset to moderate AZ's last couple months. There has been confusion of places and time/distance since his diagnose. But this morning it was the very first time he was confused of who was in bed sleeping next to him. He woke up early morning and found my son in kitchen making coffee. He…
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Attention to the little things
Well Old Scooter done it again. Just when I think I've got this Care Giving down I find something else I have missed. My DW is able to shower herself thank goodness. She has her on body soap and I have mine. Today while I was showering, I knocked over her body soap and noticed it was empty, lord only knows for how long. I…