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Tip for long URLs
Have you ever posted a link with a long URL, and that resulted in a post that caused the post (or the whole thread) to be hard to read because it ran off the page unless you zoomed way out? If that happens, you can go to https://tinyurl.com/app to make that extra long URL into a tiny URL. It's very easy to use. Once you…
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This thread inspired by a thread by riajean
You've got to please yourself. Ricky Nelson - Garden Party
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Easy way to lock a room
My husband locked me out of the bedroom but I easily opened the door by putting a paper clip in the hole in the center of the knob. It made me realize I could easily lock the other bedroom or bathroom door to keep him out if I wanted to keep stuff safe. He would never figure out how to open it.
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PSW or personal support worker.
We had our first day with our support worker. My husband asked her many times why she was here. She handled it really well, she told him she was there to help him take a shower. He told her that was my job because we were married. I had to stifle my laughter. He told her she couldn’t see him naked. The poor worker, I told…
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When is the right time to begin to live again?
Hello, this might sound strange, but in the right context - who knows. My husband of 33 years is in memory care. Deep into stage six, he's declined rapidly since placing him last August. Working full time, I see him weekly and have been going through this tortuous loss going into 8 years now. I'm alone. No friends, only…
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Dementia takes another one
My sister in law was the caregiver for my brother for 8 years until he passed. That was 7 years ago. She passed last night from dementia, but her's was not alz. She was jubilant through her whole journey, dancing with staff at the MC, and loving life like she always did. They should all go like that.
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If you could...
DH was accepted into hospicare on Thursday, March 10th. This morning I was sitting quietly next to him and the tv was on low in the background. Suddenly on the tv I heard, "If you could live just one day over again what day would that be?" So, I thought. It was a little while later that I realized that I couldn't pick. How…
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My mom passed; had to call police on HWD
My mom had a brain bleed and we were notified she was on comfort care on Monday night. We were planning on seeing her Tuesday and were on our way, at a hotel after an 8 hour drive. I decided to push through and drive the remaining three hours to see her. We arrived at 1:00am. She was not conscious. I got to say goodbye. We…
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Out of control driver
An elderly man suddenly accelerated while driving down a busy street in Washington DC and plowed into outdoor restaurant tables killing two ladies and injuring others. Police said he was cooperative and remained at the scene. It would be interesting to know if he has dementia. A normal driver does not accelerate enough to…
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Agitation and peeing?
Hi. My DH has started to wake up in an agitated mood when he gets up during the night. I think he is waking because he needs to pee. I am wondering whether he is interpreting the sensation of a full bladder as pain and that gets him agitated? Has anyone experienced this? It's not all the time but getting more frequent.…
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Sitter
Sitter came for first time today. He was doing the dishes (yes he still can do,them). I had told her he gets fixated. Well there was a serving bowl he couldn’t figure where it went so for 3 hours he stood in kitchen worried about where it goes. She tried to distract and suggest other ideas I’d given her to suggest. After I…
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when your loved one is bed bound, how do you manage changing them?
Transferring DH has become increasingly more difficult. He is losing the little ability he had to stand up. This morning when he woke, he had a mountain of muddy poop in his disposable briefs. I was unable to lift him out of bed. I removed the briefs while he was in the bed and started cleaning him up with Huggies baby…
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What is it like caring for a parent while married?
Hi, I posted in the caregiver forum, but I was advised to check out this sub forum and looking around I just have to ask. What is it like caring for a parent while married? I am already burnt out but trying to get placement into MC has been a handful. I do have them on waiting lists but time is running out. I was given a…
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nice gesture
My two sisters stayed with me for my brother's funeral. I have an American flag that flies day and night (it is lit and protected from rain). I just got a package and note from my sisters enclosing a new flag since mine was faded and battered. It also said "We also wish we could cheer you up about DW. Your spirit is…
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Grateful to all on this forum
My beloved DH, husband of 54 years, partner in so many happy memories and the love of my life, passed away last night after his battle with Lewy Body. I am not good at writing and participating in these types of things, but I read every day the experiences and tips that so many of you so generously and eloquently shared.…
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drooling(1)
My DH has been doing this since he had his stroke . Not all the time just some days. I have also notice before the stroke one side of his face would swell up and be a little red. I told the Dr. about this and was told nothing to worry about. They said it was his salivary glands that get block. I'm sure he is maybe having…
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Confusion
My husband is very confused today. He thinks he is at work and needs to install circuits ( retired 21 years ago) and can’t understand why I can’t help him. I tried to redirect then when that didn’t work we took a drive. Still no improvement so we stopped at McDonalds and I got him a milkshake. I know the confusion will…
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Doggie Dementia
About a year ago I posted about my dog seeming to mimic my husband in many of his symptoms. He was shadowing my husband , who was shadowing me. The dog became completely incontinent and also had much anxiety and pacing. The vet today confirmed the Dementia diagnosis . He wanted to put him on Trazadone but had no advice…
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A win
Today our psw or personal support worker came at 8:00 am. She was lovely and Jon, my husband loved chatting with her. It was interesting to see them interacting together, she was no nonsense but compassionate. He is not up to her helping in the shower yet, today was our first day together. It was interesting seeing how my…
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White House: Changes In Quality Of Care In NHs
https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/statements-releases/2022/02/28/fact-sheet-protecting-seniors-and-people-with-disabilities-by-improving-safety-and-quality-of-care-in-the-nations-nursing-homes/?emci=d8173310-de98-ec11-a507-281878b83d8a&emdi=6a962eed-e098-ec11-a507-281878b83d8a&ceid=4164101
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Ward of the State?
Does anyone have any knowledge/experience/facts about making a loved one a ward of the state? Any information/facts you can share will be greatly appreciated. I’m starting this thread in an attempt to help a new member. Thank you. Sincerely, abc123
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More thresholds crossed
Started the day by blocking all 24/7 news channels. Sent my first inquiry to the best MC facility in our area, got a prompt reply and an invitation to their zoom support group next Monday (iffy because of my slow internet). Sending in the fee for the wait list in the morning. The catch: they want to come out to do an…
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It was a light at the end of that tunnel
The memory care called Monday afternoon and said he could move in the next day. So yesterday afternoon DH moved to his new home.It was a blur of moving stuff in, filling out paperwork with admissions, talking with the nurse, talking with therapy, talking with a few other people - I don't even remember their positions or…
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Are plate guards worth considering?
Do they actually work well, and if so, where do you get them? Tired of food on the floor and on her clothes. EDIT: I should have also asked if anyone used the "scoop dishes" (if that's what they're called)?
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Best laid plans(1)
My usually sunny husband told me in no uncertain terms that he was not taking a shower and not going to the day program that he was to start today. I tried to explain to him he needed to shower because he stunk to high heaven. He flatly refused.Had to phone the day care and explain that he was not coming. He told me he was…
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Just need to talk to my friends (166)
Hi, Decided to start this now so Sara's post in the morning would be on the new one. Well, I fell again. Darn it. I had leaned a big ironing board and a small one against the shelves in the pantry this morning to get them out of the way. Decided to make a chocolate wacky cake so had to go in there to get the ingredients.…
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Address advice please.
Dad sold his house and closed yesterday. They are staying at my house until Dad buys another. What's best for him, a change of address to my house OR forward to my house? Thank you!
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Different losses
The last few days have been crazy with different losses. For the last 2 days dw asked if we were married? What was the date? Is there a paper that shows that? She mentioned she had seen that paper but wasn't sure if we were married. Today she's got an eye evaluation for for a possible cataract surgery. She loves to doodle…
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Few questions ??
I'm new to this group and am trying to find out a few things. My DH was diagnosed last year with VD. after a stroke. I think he has had it a couple of years before. Aricept is the only drug they added to his medications. Should he be on any other drug that may help with memory and anxiety ?He gets really mad sometimes for…
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Attention extex.
Dear extex, I just read a post you made saying your DW is mid/late stage 7. So is my mom. I hope you don’t mind if I ask questions about your DW. I’m having a hard time emotionally these days. It’s soul crushing watching my mother in this stage. She looks at me as if to say, please get me out of here, meaning that I feel…