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One hell of a roller-coaster.
DH has been diagnosed (?) with Mild Cognitive Impairment and we are working on further testing to see what might be in the mix. He has anosognosia. Today, my DH and I discovered that yesterday he had charged $$$$s of dollars on his credit card for camera equipment. I say "we discovered this today" because DH has no memory…
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Urinal? or Male Incontinence pad or both?
My DH, 78, diagnosed 2 years ago has ALZ-Posterior Cortical Atrophy and is Stage 5 going into Stage 6. Lately he hasn't been making it to the bathroom in time and slightly wetting his underwear a few times a day enough that he has to change. He may also have some visual issues but waiting for an appointment with a Neuro…
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A sweet moment
My DH is in memory care and on hospice. He uses his walker and eats pureed food for all 3 meals. When I visited yesterday, I asked him if he knew who I was. He speaks very few words. He shrugged his shoulders. I pointed to my wedding ring and then he pointed to his and leaned over to give me a kiss. That was so touching.…
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THE INSOMNIA AT STAGE 7
Hello to all, I am very sleep deprived at the moment, but wanted to post, Please excuse any bloopers. DH is having very restless nights. He has been on Seraquel 25 mg which has helped with mood , but not with sleep. So we are on a trial and error path for sleep med. The first one, Zyprexa was useless, Now switched to…
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How to get DH to see his doctors
I'm new here and new to this experience. My DH, age 82, is in early stage dementia. He is exhibiting a lot of anger toward me. I'm learning that if I express my feelings, hurt and frustration it only makes things worse. He refused to meet with a neurologist last week, in spite of pleading from me, his doctor, and his best…
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Unmarried partner not living together
My bf of 77yrar d has had memory issues and I asked him to get evaluated. After months and months with several steps along the way he has been diagnosed with MCI. I can’t keep track of everything he does and it seems like he is forgetting a lot of things. Seems he thought he was scammed the other day and called ti make a…
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My Chuckle Today
As many of you know DW has been in MC for almost 2 years. She is in Stage 7 and is almost nonverbal usually only uttering a single word in response to a question and I can not remember the last time she spoke a coherent sentence. When I went to visit today she was very upbeat and happy. I asked her if she would like to go…
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YOUR LOCAL COUNCIL ON AGING CAN BE AN AMAZING RESOURCE
Hi guys, Just a quick post for new members who may not know. If you are looking for medical equipment , incontinence supplies, and other caregiver necessities, check out your local senior center. many of them have all kinds of things that have been barely used, eg wheelchairs, walkers, guardrails. My local branch has an…
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Moving
My husband has moderate Alzheimer's. He also has some physical issues, specifically back issues. So getting him in a car to drive any distance is not an option. I'm trying to get him to go back to his MD to get another epidural which helped the last time with his back but he is adamant that walking will take care of it. I…
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Time for self?
How do you find time to think, to breath, to be something other than a caregiver? My DH has been I stage 4 for over a year and is recently show more decline. I work from home most days, and he will come in the office and sit. He asks me when I will be done multiple times. I update a dry erase board every morning with what…
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LO Begs To Come Home
My husband is 86 yrs old, who was a psychiatric nurse, started having delusions in early June and it was so bad that he started threatening me and tried to hurt me. I had to get emergency help for him and he was transferred to a dementia hospital for evaluation and treatment. He was given medication that has been helpful…
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when should caretaker prepare for incontinence in bed?
Hoping for some advice from the more experienced here... I've been reading posts about pads and adult diapers and getting up with a demented spouses at night, and while we're not really there yet (no accidents, he gets up by himself at night), I expect we will get to that point at some point in the future. I would like to…
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New and Grieving with Questions
Thanks for adding me to the group. I am new to this beast. My DH was diagnosed July 17 (Monday) with Alzheimer’s and I am grieving. I don’t even know what to do and it’s hard to even breathe. I just cry. I’ve being seeing his decline for a couple years and when we had a defining moment, it took six months to get the…
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H Placement Up Date
I have posted about my H who is 10+ years into Alzheimer's and Stage 6. Lots of agitation, anger, frustration, etc. I was tired of walking on eggshells and making myself smaller and smaller so as not to trigger him. I wanted to place but my son has been very resistant, but also very minimal help even though he had wanted…
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increasing agitation and aggression
hi everyone, my dh was diagnosed with EO at 52 years old in 2020, he's 56 now. looking for any advice or similar situations regarding aggression/agitation. my dh is agitated daily, today for example he spent the day on the phone talking to the city bylaw office making complaints about all of our neighbours. yesterday we…
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Need some laundry advice for beginning incontinence
Hello again, fellow travelers. We are dealing with the beginning of urinary incontinence -- usually a few hours after dinner. I have read many threads on this topic, but what I really could use is what laundry practices worked best for you. I have been soaking wet items in vinegar, then laundering as usual. Sometimes I use…
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Number of UTI’s
It seems like my husband gets a lot of UTI’s. He’s had 6 in the last year, the last two a month apart. How many UTI’s has your spouse had in the past year, if any? What do you think is the cause?
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A perplexing decision!
Hello All. My first post. I need some thoughts on this. My wife has Osteoporosis, pretty bad arthritis, Sleep Apnea, and every organ she doesn't need has been removed. She also has "Moderately severe dementia and Anosognosia. Add to the list, She fell and broke her arm in two places. One down at the wrist, and the other up…
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ABETA 42/40 Ratio Blood test
About 5 years ago my wife was diagnosed with MCI. In the last year or so, I've noticed that she has been loosing her short term memory. For all intents and purposes it's gone now. She's had other classic signs -- leaving the stove on after cooking and completely missing the turn in to our housing development when driving…
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How to answer - "I want to go home"
My DH, diagnosed with Alzheimers, is in a Memory Care Unit. He does not communicate very much. However, he repeats several times a day, I want to go home. He asks the staff to call me to come get him. My son has explained that right now he needs to be where he is. I always tell him "I hear you", "I understand". Is this…
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Back again
My hubby is still in the hospital. He lies in his bed curled up in a fetal position, his body supported by foam blocks and his feet bandaged. I visit once a week, I stay for about a half an hour and he holds my hand, I am glad of that. I was laid off my job, so don’t have that form of brain stimulation. My birthday is on…
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New member,need guidance as caregiver
So thankful for the posts I have read on this site and decided to join. I am a caregiver for my significant other. We have been together for 36 plus years. He was diagnosed with dementia in 2021 but it seems to have progressed. Some days he is pleasant, nice and cooperation but then there are days he is agitated and…
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Death of DH
My husband died in March after an 8 year battle with Alzheimer's. I am concerned because I don't seem to be going through a grief process. I don't even know how I am feeling. I know he is in a better place and after 61 years of marriage I miss him, but there is relief for me too because I don't have to watch him suffer any…
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BUGGSROO - HAPPY BIRTHDAY
AND . . . . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_DDFjXUm00 HAPPY, HAPPY SPECIAL DAY DEAR BUGGSROO! We may not be able to be with you in person, but we are with you in spirit to share this special day for a special person. May this day find some lovely moments in it, and may your "new" year be filled with many blessings, both…
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Time to Withdraw from 401A and 401K - Update
I need to start withdrawing from my retirement accounts, but they require DH's signature and to be notarized. How can I get this accomplished when he's in memory care? I have DPOA, but I can't find any information on what the process requires under these circumstances. If anyone has experience, please advise. Thanks.
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Connections
I have early onset and was looking up info on hemocromatosis which i have it seems that people with it have a high risk of alzheimer's interesting. Others maybe in the same boat may find this interesting
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DH got his flu vaccine today
And I am wondering if he'll ever be getting another. DH has gotten this vaccine religiously for as long as I have known him. Today we stopped outside the pharmacy and I said, let's go in and get your flu vaccine. Frown. "I don't get that," he replied. I convinced him that he always did, and he went in with me. This is our…
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The ever popular incontinence care
Has anyone had luck using the North Coast incontinence products? Some of their products look great-on their webpage. I was hoping for a less biased opinion. My beloved is in residential memory care and the generic products they use there may as well be made from tissue paper. I do all her laundry and bedding and I don't…
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CELA Questions
DW and I are meeting with a CELA this week. I know we need wills and POAs, but what other questions should we be asking? If you've seen a CELA, what questions did you ask? What questions do you wish you had asked? Thanks.