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He is gone
I have been absent for quite some time and I apologize for not being more supportive. DH lost his battle tonight. And, he battled, right to the end. Our daughter and son were here. We kept him home and we gathered at the end. Our daughter was with him when he took his last breath. Yesterday, after the aid and caregiver got…
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Fidget toy ideas
My Dh, stage 7, will often twist his blanket or towel or whatever he is holding in his hand, so I recently gave him one of the dog toys (it was new) that had a small rubber ball in the middle of a rope with knots. Then I gave him a large jumbo hot dog that crinkles. He will sometimes twist the ball around the rope or try…
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Who would have known Celexa was needed and makes the difference
Was having issues with DH for a while due to extreme sun-downing, agitation, sometimes aggression, etc., that has been going on for some time. I have posted about it looking for solutions, advice, etc. DH has been on Seroquel for awhile.. Adjustments had to be made because too much at one time made him worse. Finding the…
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You're gonna think I'm crazy, but where are we?
That's what she said right after breakfast. I told her we were in our home, and I told her the address. She said "I still don't know where we are. What is around here that I should know something about?" I told her Strack and Van Til's, a large grocery store, was about 6 or 7 blocks north of us, and the Corner Cafe was…
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Control over finances / loss of control
There may be a board for this but I could not find it. My DH thinks he should be in control of money coming to him from disability. He thinks it is play money, not for household expenses. He wont save it for the time he needs full time care and he gets angry and unreasonable when we try to talk about it. We are both on the…
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MC is opening up for visits!
DH has been in MC for 6 months now. Other than taking him out for appointments, all our visits have been with plexiglass between us. But now that Covid cases here are going down and the residents and staff have had their vaccinations, we can visit in their rooms starting Thursday! When I found out, I cried tears of joy for…
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It's another day
I joined this group over four years ago after finally having a diagnosis. The support on here I felt would be so helpful. I've not gone back and read my posts, but right out of the gate, I posted about going to an Elder Attorney for medical and durable power of attorney. My husband and I married in 1965. I was one month…
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Scary covid numbers
Scary numbers I use 7 day averages with a 21 day lag to calculate KIFR (Known Infection Fatality Ratio) Here is the 7 day average data for the last 14 days for deaths. Deaths week ending Feb 22 2041 Cases week ending Feb 1 148, 419 (21 day lag) KIFR 1.375% Deaths week ending March 1 1996 Cases week ending February 8 112655…
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Long Term Namenda Use Question
DW has been on Namenda (memantine) for 3 years, personally I never noticed any improvement when she started taking the medication. From what I have read the medication is only effective for about 1 year. I am contemplating asking her neurologist to remove this from her medication regiment. I wanted to ask if others have…
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Why can't it always be the same?
Not too long ago, my wife wanted to go to her mother's place. But I wasn't sure if she knew her mother was dead. It wasn't long before the subject turned to my mother. I told her my mother was dead. She said "well, so is mine". So I guess she wanted to visit the gravesite. This morning she wanted to go again. I asked her…
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What to wear?
My mom can't seem to keep her pants up. She's losing so much weight that we can't keep up with buying her jeans every time she loses weight. All the jeans she does have fit her a little big. Except I noticed she tugs her jeans down intentionally so her pull ups are always being exposed. And of course she doesn't know. I'm…
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MCF Chains
There are a few national or multi state MCF or AL chains that have facilities near me. Some may be franchises. Any body have experience with Artis, Leisure Care, Benchmark, EPOCH, Masonicare? I’m sure there are more, and Amy experience you can share would be helpful. Thanks.
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dentist
My DHnow has been complaining of tooth pain. He has not been to the dentist in several years. Has anyone dealt with their LO and going to the dentist . He will not be able to deal with x-rays .He has great difficulties following any directions. Thank you for any help in this area
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Textbook example?
DW went upstairs to put on pjs. I went up to check on her. She was trying to put on her pjs over the clothes she had worn all day. 6a?
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Need help with forum
Can someone please instruct me on how to create my own password for login? I have tried "reset password" several times and all i get is a new one created by this site. Which I can't remember because its just an alphabet soup. Thanks!
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Are you considering placement - ever?
If so, this is a must read thread from last June. https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147552810
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Respite. Care
Last time I posted a message, it was about respite care too. Since that time two different people have come. This has been going on for only two weeks. The first time I got a text message from the lady sitting with my wife that everything was going really well. The second time it seemed to be going well also. That’s the…
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Shower hints
Any hints how to get DW to take a shower without using brute force?
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Beautiful lesson of life after death of spouse.
This was posted on my Facebook page. It's beautiful and thought I needed to share: You can shed tears because they are gone, or you can smile because they lived. You can close your eyes and pray they will come back, or you can open your eyes and see all that they left for you. Your heart can be empty because you can’t see…
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We are going to keep you safe, even if it kills your spirit.
This article hit home for me. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/19/o...-dementia.html
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Limbo Land
Hi, all. I have just joined alzconnected today. After scanning the topics on this Forum, I did not see any that really covered what is on my mind. So..... My wife has mild cognitive impairment, diagnosed April 2020. She began to have memory problems in Fall 2019. Things have gradually, albeit slowly, progressed since then.…
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Time for Hospice evaluation or too early?
DH can still walk around the house and yard. Cannot communicate well due to due to Primary Aggressive Aphasia. In the past week he barely eats two bites of anything and not drinking much either. He did use the toilet up until four days ago but goes in his depends now and does not realize it. He sleeps okay but it takes him…
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DW got her second shot.
I brought her brownies, chocolate Ice cream and Blueberry pie just in case she had a negative reaction. She didn't but she ate them all happily . I did see her for a few seconds for the first time since last March. Her hair is down to her shoulders, the longest its been since June 1975. She did not recognize or acknowledge…
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Jo C
Haven't seen any posts from you for a while. Just wondering if you're doing ok?
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Can't make a sticky thread
On another thread, I asked Jo about making a sticky thread for the one concerning nursing home/MC questions. She couldn't tell me how to do it, but I contacted administration. Here is an email I received already! Ed, Thank you for sharing this feedback! Unfortunately, our current site platform does not have the ability to…
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VENT: I am screaming on the inside, very loudly
DH has been moody all day. He's bummed because the ice storm held up his favorite coffee order delivery. Meanwhile, I have been cleaning up mud and scheduling repairs needed as a result of the ice storm. I was so fortunate that a plumber became available today. We have an exterior pipe that has been leaking since earlier…
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Two Wins This Week
On Monday DW’s youngest granddaughter got her drivers license and I used this accomplishment as the excuse to pass on DW’s car because the Granddaughter “really needed a car to get to work”. It went without any issues so a win for for all involved. Yesterday morning my neighbor called and gave me a phone number to call to…
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was planing on retiring in July.
Now not so sure. I got a raise at work going from $12.17 Hour to $14.50 Maybe $15.00 My question is this If I worked one more year would that make my SSA go up. or would I have to work 2 more years for it to make an impact on the amount I can draw.
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Something to be grateful for
Every so often I accidentally find some object that DW has put away in an unlikely place, and that I had given up looking for.
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More about UTIs
Julie was asking about UTIs in another thread, so I thought I'd pass this on. My wife was having recurrent UTIs, and she had some very bad symptoms from them. At one point she wound up in the hospital for 3 days. But the thing I wanted to pass on is this. I was on another forum several months ago, and people were talking…