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Bank account considerations
Just some general info that may help some. Sometimes being added to checking + savings account as signatory is more advisable than using a DPOA. If your LO can sign, they can be taken to the bank(or whatever the bank requires) + ask to have you added to the account. This is sometimes easier than dealing with a POA. Also,…
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Bathroom bar & chair??
I’m having bathroom renovated. Taking out tub and just shower. I think this will be better for my hubby. Should I have them install the bar to hold onto and chair or just the bar? I had a chair to put in tub but hubby didn’t care for it. That was months ago. It may be something he needs as time goes on. And I have choice…
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Respite recommended
At my last Dr visit she recommended that I utilize respite care for my DH because she thought after all these years (14) I deserved a break. I called the facility DH attends day care at two days a week. The director answered my many questions and when I asked the cost I discovered how valuable my caregiving time is. The…
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what dementia has taken from us
This is really a follow-on to the Angry discussion. On top of losing the PWD, we lose the joy of some of the activities we shared. In our case it's gardening. I'm not angry, but I am very sad. DW and I have been gardening since we met and had a place to do it. She usually took care of the flowers, and I usually took care…
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Mom with Dementia constantly leaving home
Hi! I’m new here. I travel for work and bring my mom with me because I am an only child. We’ve been doing this for the last few years. She was doing well for the longest time, but she was just formally diagnosed with Dementia after she left where we’re currently staying and got lost. A neighbor called the police and they…
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Time to Say Goodbye
DW turned the corner this morning. She has been in memory care since last August and has been in hospice care since January. She qualified for hospice since she has both advanced (stage 6) EOAD and cervical cancer (stage unknown). When checked by the hospice nurse this morning DW was virtually unresponsive but her vitals…
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Feeling Sick and Confused
My brother and I took our mom to memory care today, and it did not go well. She is very lucid and talkative compared to all of the other people we have met at the memory care place, and even the nurse there said that she was wanting to evaluate her to make sure she wouldn't be better off in AL, and that she would bring her…
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Self care
I really understand how important it is to take care of #1. Yesterday I had a meltdown. I have been dealing with chronic insomnia lately and it was making me stressed out emotionally and physically. I couldn't think clearly and I felt overwhelmed thinking about the next step on how to take care of both mom and dad with…
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Sun upper versus Sun downer
My mom wakes up yelling at me about her bank account and that I need to stop stealing from her. She does this nearly every morning, sometimes before her feet hit the ground. It takes her a hot minute to calm down but doesn’t really let go of it until later in the day. She no longer seems to grasp the fact that her online…
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Angry
Just. So. Angry.
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Freaking out somewhat
My DH is currently in a locked behavioral ward next to the ER at a local hospital. He’s had a series of escalating aggressive behaviors, so I finally decided he needed to get his meds adjusted at a Geri-psych ward. An ambulance took him from his memory care to the hospital this morning. He will be admitted later tonight to…
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Seeing my DH tension
My DH spends all his time outside sitting,alone. He was diagnosed with alzhimers this year, i n the mild stage. He's lost alot of weight. Today I mentioned his pants were to big. You could visibly see him tense up. He gets that way anytime he is ask a question. Just aggravated. Is this normal? He does nothing. The…
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Experience with Clonazepam/Klonopin?
Mom's been having some changes in her sleeping habits and right now I'm trying to figure out if it's the medication she's on or something else. About a month and a half ago, she was put on hospice, all her regular meds stopped, and was put on Clonazepam. I thought it was to help her sleep through the night; my sisters said…
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10 Absolutes in Dementia Care list
Recently shared by another member here. Thanks @Chug
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Funeral planning - How does one go about doing this?
Hello, I'm doing some form of funeral planning and I've never done this before, for anyone. Where I live I've been quoted 20k for just a full-body crypt about a year ago. And in 2018 it was 6k, at another cemetery. The 6k price was from 2018 before Covid hit and made everything crazy and real expensive. My question is, how…
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WALKERS/CANES/ROLLATOR
I am going to the VA on May 3 to see if I can be fitted for a taller cane and walker and rollator. I am almost 7 feet tall and the ones I bought on my own are not tall enough me I have to walk slightly bent over and it causes me some back pain hopefully the VA can help me. It is bad enough that I have ALZ I am going to see…
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Trying to Help my Mother with Memory Loss
Hello all, This is my first post. I am an only child and my parents live a 7 hour car drive away. Last year, I noticed that my mother was experiencing memory loss, but my father is in denial. Last May, I went up to visit and got her to see a neurologist. Her memory loss has gotten worse. She can't remember how many days…
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Dementia Phone
Maybe you all know about this but just in case it would be a help to someone I am sharing. When my husband couldn't use his cell phone anymore nor learn another simpler version, I found a cell phone specifically for dementia patients. It is called a RAZ phone. I purchased it a couple of years ago for about $400. You have…
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I'm so tired.
My great grandma recently moved in with me. I knew there would be an adjustment period, but months later the behavior is only getting worse. She doesn't ever sleep a full night and is just never happy. She is 94 and acts like the biggest diva. Almost like the entire would should be ready to serve her and nothing is ever…
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Entertainment/Communication
My DH with ALZ always says 'I've see this before or I've been here before' regarding any new tv show, movie or visiting a new place. My mom with vascular dementia never did this. Does anyone else have this issue? It's very frustrating to try to do anything together.
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Checking in... post-diagnosis frustrations...
Good Morning Everyone. I so appreciate the posts I've read this morning. It is comforting to know that my feelings are normal. I am feeling so powerless these days. As if the diagnosis isn't enough to deal with, it's dealing with healthcare, insurance, the government and lawyers. It's enough to drive anyone mad. Then add…
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Colon cancer screening -- yes or no?
My husband recently got a colon cancer screening kit in the mail from his doctor. His Alzheimer's has progressed to the point that he can't follow even simple instructions, but he's cognizant enough to push back if I try to do too much to help him. He refuses my help with the kit, but he's also obsessed with it. He woke me…
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Can’t sleep
I’m still struggling with my DH’s son and friends denial of DH dementia. Today we attended our granddaughter’s music recital. Afterwards, we were invited over to granddaughter’s house. I felt it was important to accept. My DH ex wife was there and they started talking about driving. My DH went on about how he had to take…
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The Physical Part of Progression
Greetings from my corner of overwhelm and sadness. My DW has begun to show more signs of entering stage 6. She may already be there and mostly I don’t care if I have her in the right stage. Each stage sucks and everyone one of them has included a deeply painful element or elements to it. Though she pops back in to being…
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Anosognosia in dementia
Hello New to this community and this is a first post - learning to manage the diagnosis of dementia in my 80yo mother which is complicated by what appears to be Anosognosia - which without any experience I had labeled as either being in denial vs an inability to acknowledge due to the condition. Either way it is a…
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DH got evaluated at memory clinic
After 5 yrs of declining health, cognitive impairment diagnosis 3 years ago and 2 strokes in the past 2 yrs, DH finally got evaluated at memory clinic. Surprisingly clinician Saud he did not see alz. Cognitive impairment and possible early VD. His short term memory is getting much worse, understanding of language is a real…
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My mom is free now!
She was in hospice at her MC because of a fall that resulted in a neck fracture and brain bleed. She was in a lot of pain even with morphine and lorazapam every three hours. She wasn't eating any more except for a few sips of Insure and the CokaCola I brought for her everday. She started actively dying about a day before…
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Hospice question
Hello! Two years ago, my dad was functioning quite well. Today, I talked to hospice because he is no longer doing well. Hospice was the doctor’s suggestion. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about a year and a half ago and moved to assisted living with my mother a few months later. I liked my talk this morning with the…
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concerned
My dad is in a MC. He is probably stage 6 but I don't know for sure. When the aide took him to his room to clean him and change him(he is totally incontinent) he tried to choke her. He has not shown any violence before. She said she was squatted down at the time so I wonder if he thought she was some sort of animal. He…
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Happy Mother's Day
Today I went to go see my Mother in her nursing home. Yes she is bedridden, in her 7th year of Alzheimer's. She doesn't know who I am or what's going on but I got to pray with her, held her hand, hugged her and kissed her several times. God Bless and Happy Mother's Day to everyone who has a mamma. ✌️