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Vascular Dementia??
People say that defining what type of dementia doesn’t matter, but it does to me. It doesn’t change what they have, but, for me, it just makes it easier to understand what the future may hold. The life expectancy for someone with vascular dementia is less than someone with AD. Though our neurologist cannot diagnosis…
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No Sleep(3)
Any suggestions on how to move to the guest room? My DH is up and down all night. He either wanders around or goes to the bathroom and often just thinks he has to pee every hour on the hour. (I know, I am lucky that he thinks he has to pee and isn't peeing in the bed). Every time his feet hit the ground, I wake up and…
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Do you send Christmas cards??
The thread All I Want For Christmas prompted this thread. We always sent cards, sometimes with a carefully worded letter that we always hoped was informing and not bragging. After becoming empty nesters and then grandparents, we sent picture cards. (Yeah, guess we were bragging on the grandkids!) DH went to MC last year in…
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So they don't want to bathe?
Just a few tips for you. When someone with dementia REFUSES to bathe [try this]
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To Army Vet and Last Dance
And to everyone else in stage 8. I am fast approaching the 1 yr anniversary (Jan 23). and I find myself shuffeling through the motions of the holiday. You guys are not alone and neither am I. I can't say that I've had visitations but there have been a few dreams where he felt so very real to me and thankfully he appeared…
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Feeling guilty(3)
I am having a very hard coping. I’m a Type A person to say the least- always running at top speed. My husband who was recently diagnosed has always been on the slow side but now it takes him a very long time to do many things. I’m impatient and then I feel awful. I’m looking for a support group in the Bethesda, MD area.
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Early Onset(2)
Can I just say I'm sick of everyone deciding that DH can't have dementia because he's too young? It even goes as far as a new psychiatrist who said maybe it is pseudodementia, due to depression. Seriously, pseudodementia doesn't get to stage 6 with atrophy in the brain. Pseudodementia doesn't get to the point where you…
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Geripsychs & meds; venting, advice welcome
Some may recall my DH, stage6, who’s been docile and compliant, started exploding in anger and saying he saw me doing bad things with strange men, and/or just about any man DH noticed. His rages were extreme, and scary. His PCP tested and ruled out a UTI and other things. Getting those tests back took a couple days. In the…
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Aromatherapy
Have u tried aromatherapy for dementia/ Alzheimer’s? If so. Which oils helped in dementia/ memory issues?
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Tub to shower conversion
We have one & half bathroom, as DH dementia progresses, should I convert the bath tub to walk in shower? I am in Akexandria, va. Any contractor suggestion and financial help suggestions would be appreciated
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FYI(10)
https://www.caregiving.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/NAC_CaringForCaregiver_Paper_v2highres.pdf
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Things I'm pondering lately
As my wife’s dementia continues to progress I can see the day coming when I will have to place her in memory care, either because I can no longer keep her safe, no longer manage all of her needed care, or my stress level gets to the point of endangering my own health. Her latest MoCA cognitive test score was 6 out of 30…
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Vascular dementia(9)
DH underwent testing with a neuropsychologist yesterday. She was amazing. Although we will discuss the results next week after she scores and analyzes the data, her initial observation is to rule out alzheimers and frontotemporal dementia due to the rapid decline. She is looking at vascular dementia and wernicke. The…
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a very pleasant afternoon tea
When I get frazzled, it helps me to take a break and have a cup of hot tea. I found a grocery store brand of jasmine tea that I have been enjoying lately. Fortunately the price is budget friendly. There is something soothing about the fragrance of the tea and holding the warm cup in my hands. Usually I drink my tea in…
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A terrible week
For the past two weeks, my partner has been in a nearby MC unit. It went well, but it is clear that he preferred Tunisia and the director validated that this choice is more appropriate for his age. On Sunday, his mother went to see him there. He categorically refused to see her and became very angry. The staff managed very…
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FYI(9)
https://www.statnews.com/2021/11/29/resident-to-resident-incidents-hidden-source-nursing-home-harm/
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A movie...The Father
One of the most insightful things I have experienced. Difficult to watch. I ended up watching it in sections. At once stupendously effective and profoundly upsetting, “The Father” might be the first movie about dementia to give me actual chills. On its face a simple, uncomfortably familiar story about the heartbreaking…
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Another fall(1)
Yesterday my DH was working on the backyard leaves that were in a pile and needed put in the trash can. He said he did not need help. He lost track of what he was out there for and started on another "project" when he fell. He can no longer do so many things he did all of his life, it is sad to see. Mostly he sits in his…
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Has anyone dealt with psychotic breaks with LO?
My DH ended up being sectioned walking into neighbors homes, yelling and trying a few times to throw me physically out of home… Had delusions…. After a brief stay in geriatric psych, I had to place him in memory care because he wasn’t ready for home. He was insisting I was not his wife and had a few delusions. While at MC,…
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Respite Care?
My DH is 67. Almost 2 years ago he was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment. In that time, I have observed a marked decline in his memory and cognitive processing. In addition, he has been diagnosed with a number of other medical issues that are really limiting his activities. He is currently dealing and being treated…
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Just because
In the window you can see a Menorah. We are an Abie's Irish Rose Family. Christmastime is hard but I still love it.
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Please add all of you can think off to this list - Thanks
I decide to a podcast for caregivers next year with a motivational speaker I have now known for over 10 years. I believe many of you can be helped if you would just learn a few things. He is not as familiar as I am with this disease. So, I am asking you all to add all of the issues you have to deal with your loved ones.…
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Update on DH's decline
Hi everyone. I haven't posted in a while, but often check in to see how everyone is doing. I'm so sorry there are so many new people that have a reason to be here. But you found a great place with caring people, where you can learn, share, grieve, rant, and sometimes even laugh. My DH has been in MC for 15 months now. He…
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Michiganpat and other new members
First of all, welcome to the forum. Sorry any of you have to be here, but you will find it a very valuable site. This is just a little information on the shortcomings of this site. On another thread, michiganpat wrote "I am new to site also. I wrote out a long message (my first one) but when I tried to post I got an error…
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Anyone else dealing with total loss of conscious thought?
DW can walk and swallow food if you put it in her mouth. That's it. She does not respond to voice commands or instructions. She will walk around an obstruction that she actually sees She is compliant with ADLS (dressing shower toilet but has no interaction) She is 69 and otherwise in good health Anyone else at this stage?
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Writing on the wall
Yesterday was the 11th day since DH had a shower. We talked about it and he came up with the solution that he would shower twice a week, on Wednesday and Saturday. Yesterday being Saturday he said he would shower later. Later never came. I went through all the mental anguish of how to handle this, hiring somebody to do it,…
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If you have a new Roku, or don't have the youtube app
You might want to read this. https://www.tomsguide.com/opinion/heres-the-first-thing-every-roku-owner-should-do
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Bathroom rug cleaning
What rugs do u use in the bathroom when there is frequent signs of feces on the rugs. DH in mild Dementia diagnose, 83. Tired of cleaning the dirty rugs. Any ideas?
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This just goes on and on, COVID19, Delta and now omicron
I am sure many of you feel the same frustrations. I have wanted to travel with my wife because I don’t have a lot of time left and I am also being robed of that. When is this ever going to end? We have now canceled two trips and I will probably now need to cancel one for April. I just don’t want to take the risk. I at…
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An Unexpected Mitzvah
During our Thanksgiving week sojourn in Florida we stayed at a lovely, tiny little Inn on the beach in Pass-A-Grille. In that time we met some truly nice, welcoming people staying on either side of us. The last of which was an awesome gay couple who have been together for over 20 years and married for 17…which is apro pos…