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Another step down.
Starting at 12:30 am on Wednesday morning my mil started the first of two falls and 2 bed slips in 16 hours. Her balance is gone. Her desire to pace is not. Her ankle and knee are swollen. She’s hit her head twice. She’s going to walk until she falls and can’t walk anymore. We’ve resorted to putting the mattress on the…
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Wants me to call police
One of the delusions DH has had for almost a year is that people are living in our attic at dusk by coming in through the crawlspace and going through a non-existent hole straight to the attic and then leaving at dawn and then has added a girl living upstairs (which we don't often use) who has a man coming to visit who…
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not swallowing all his water
DH is bedbound. We raise his hospital bed up when he eats and drinks. Yesterday and today, when given water which he drinks through a straw, some of the water came back out running down his chin. He takes longer to eat now and chews and chews every bite, as if he's eating a tough piece of meat, no matter what it is. Is…
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Looking for more advice/opinions
My DH ended up being sectioned walking into neighbors homes, yelling and trying a few times to throw me physically out of home… Had delusions…. After a brief stay in geriatric psych, I had to place him in memory care because he wasn’t ready for home. He was insisting I was not his wife and had a few delusions. While at MC,…
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Recommended Annual Screening
I spoke with Nurse Practitioner at DH’s endocrinologist office - she is the closest thing we have to a primary physician - shared my concerns about his mental and neurological status. I asked that it be confidential as he is already sort of paranoid. There is testing she is going to recommend at his 3 month visit next week…
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Paris20
In another thread, you said "The other night, my husband sat bare-@ssed on our bed. By the time I told him not to do that, it was too late. I had to change all the linens and do a wash at midnight. " I just wonder if you're familiar with layering the bed? If you layered it, you wouldn't have to wash at midnight. If you're…
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I don't understand(1)
Talked to the neuropsychologist today about last week's testing. Although DH tested in the moderate to severe memory loss category in Nov, he did well last week. Scores were in the average to below average range. She feels he is very depressed. He sleeps 20 hours a day and has lost interest in everything. So I understand…
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Dangerous Delusions
The other day while I was at work one of my neighbors told me there were two police cars in our neighborhood. There was a report that someone was out brandishing a gun but they found nothing. According to my DH though, the police were there because our neighbors 16 year old son across the street was driving too fast,…
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A Dementia Travel Tale of Mirth and Woe
Getting to our coast house is now a lengthy trip, because we located to a house far, far away to conserve funds and be near a family support system. I break up the 12-hour trip with a stay in Reno. On our most recent trip, I reserved a room (using my daughter’s generous employee hotel discount) with a king bed. I know my…
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End of a Chapter
My DH, passed away Dec. 9, in his sleep, by my side. There was no indication that anything was different that night. I am numb.
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Urination
Oh my...we are having our living room completely remodeled so had painting done and all pictures off the walls in living room and hallway etc. I put some of the pictures on the floor in our bedroom as paintings etc will go back on the walls once our new furniture comes. We had several cloth designs from Viet Nam which we…
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Tracking Device(2)
My wife’s home care nurse suggested I obtain a GPS tracking device for her to wear if she ever leaves the house on her own so that me or the authorities can find her. The device should also have fall detection. Anybody heard of such a gadget? She also suggested that I obtain an alz med-alert bracelet for her with name,…
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Sorry I have forgotten
You may think I am talking about my partner who has Alzheimer ? But no, I talk about his son ! Today I had to leave at 5am for a phD defense in the south of France. Everything was organized. My son was at home this night and had to leave after 8am, the first caregiver arrives at 8am and manages the morning routine and the…
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Does anyone have experience with bidets
I'm seriously considering a bidet. My wife told me she would not use one, but it might be worth a try. Does anyone have a LO who never used one before dementia? How did it go? Which one do you have, and what are the pros and cons? I know we need a heated bidet, and a warm wash that is consistently warm.
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vent: the trail of turds
Last evening, I came down with a fever. I told DH that I needed to rest. He was fairly annoyed that I would not be waiting on him hand and foot. But I felt rest was best. At 3:30 am, DH decided it was time to get up. We got up and I got him coffee and a smoke. He was annoyed his programs were not on yet. I explained that I…
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Non verbal behavior
Hi, new to this site. My loving partner of 41 years was officially diagnosed with dementia 09/21 while in the hospital due to alcohol induced pancreatitis. He also has Sundowners and it was explained to me that he used alcohol to calm himself down. We have just started the dementia journey as he has had a high level…
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Some days(1)
Some days this is how How I think of Alzheimer's Photo by DW Rhinos are vegetarians They kill critters they can't eat.
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To get tested or not?
I had my husband tested by his primary doctor (he didn't know I asked). She told me he did pretty good, then in his patient portal she diagnosed MCI. I have seen others tested who did well when it was obvious there was a problem. He was very upset after the appointment and said he would never get another "brain test"…
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Just need to talk to my friends (160)
Hi, Hated to start a new part of the thread when the discussion on EMV, CMV, Covid, the new variant and so many other things were going so good. But, it's past time so losing posts will begin to happen more frequently. Dr. Fauci has been on almost all of the news shows this morning - he seems a bit worried about the new…
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Does your MC facility hand feed your LO?
DH needs more than just a little assistance eating. Sometimes he has to be hand fed the entire meal. This has been going on for 4 weeks now. The MC staff have told me that they can't technically feed residents, just assist. However, they are feeding him breakfast. Otherwise, I'm going in twice/day to feed him lunch and…
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I recommend the following
I don’t like to recommend things that I can not prove. But after taking these for every long time they have been safe. I also believe they are helping along with the other drugs I take. No one will ever know if this combination works but I did a lot of studding and many do agree that there is some possibility. The ways I…
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How to determine when no longer advisable to leave LO alone
I have been wanting to present this topic to the group for several days to get your input. I thought I still had time. I would leave for an hour or 2 to do errands, visit a friend, etc, always leaving a note on where I am, when I will be back and my cell number. Today was to be a picnic with a friend for 2 hours. After…
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Mourning what this disease has taken
Does anyone else have days when you are almost immobilized by sadness? DH still lives at home but it is like being alone. The only thing he seems to enjoy is eating. Other than that he sleeps. Today I am angry and sad. Does anyone else ever feel like this
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Awakened this morning
At 6:30 this morning my husband, who usually sleeps in until at least 9, woke me up to tell me I must get up and get dressed. Still sleepy, I asked him why. He replied that it was time to go home and if I didn’t hurry we’d miss our flight. He was so sure of his words that I spoke carefully, even though we certainly were…
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Loss of bowel/bladder control.
This is no easy topic. A taboo subject ingrained in my brain, but here goes. Our sanitary issues have changed very very fast. What was an occasional skid mark job turned into a daily attendant job with me having to persuade my gal to let me clean her backside. This is obviously invasive, and she quite reasonably does not…
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ability to judge temperature
Has anyone had a concern regarding your LO being able to judge temperature? With the house warm, plenty of clothing and blankets my LO complained of being cold this morning around 5 pm. I did numerous things to warm him. His body felt comfortably warm to me, not hot. He was not feverish. After a while, I suggested we get…
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I should have known better
My wife simply can't understand that we only have one dog. She is always asking about the others. This morning she asked me where the dog was. I told her she was laying on the floor right in front of us. But that wasn't the dog she was looking for. Then she called "Layla", "Gracie". I told her Layla died 5 1/2 years ago.…
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This has become real
My husband has had some form of dementia for the past two and a half years. I have been slowly getting my ducks in a row, contacting the Alzheimer’s society, getting him assessed by the city for future placement in a mc facility. She came yesterday, she asked my husband all these questions about his health and his life.…
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I hope our members are OK
These tornadoes were devastating for a lot of people. Hopefully all of our members are OK, and they were not too impacted by them.
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Holiday Brownies
I made Brownies for DW with red and green sugar crystals.