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Turkey pie
It is the season for Turkey pie Turkey or chicken pot pie Ingredients 1 egg (for the crust ⅓ cup butter (look at the stick) 1 onion cut up small ⅓ cup flour ½ teaspoon poultry seasoning plus slat and pepper to taste ½ teaspoon thyme 1 cup chicken broth ⅔ cup milk I use evaporated milk which I dilute 1-1 with chicken broth…
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Depakote(1)
Just wondering if anyone on this site has used Depakote for their LO.
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Touring long care homes
I had my first tour of the long tour home that my dad was in. It was interesting to see how clean the facility was, the friendliness of the staff and the comfortable feeling overall.I was somewhat emotional but was wearing a mask so no one noticed. I was shown the dining room, the TV room etc. It was when I was shown the…
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Dating while still married and caring for my wife
I've been taking care of my wife for the last six years, and moved her into a memory home three months ago. I'm ready to move on with my life and start dating. I met a woman, but she's concerned I'm still married. I know there are other people out there successfully dealing with this situation. And I've even seen articles…
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E-Mails
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Medicaid beds
I’m searching for MC for DH and know that I can only pay for 2 years. I can’t find anyplace that offers Medicaid beds if need be. Is this common that I will have to move him to a different facility in the future? There may be one about 45 miles away. Is it better for me to be closer to him for the next two years and worry…
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Denial, Loss, then Acceptance
It's been awhile since I posted a thread on this forum and I hope this one has meaning. Like so many of us or maybe all of us I've struggled with denial. My wife was diagnosed in Feb. 2019 with AD, that was also the day the denial started. For the past 2 and half yrs I've lived in the world of denial. It wasn't until a…
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Sleep(4)
It's 5am and my DH just got me up. Nothing was wrong he just wanted me up with him. I know he was up earlier cuz the living room light was on. I said to my DH that maybe he should go back to bed. He agreed and he is sleeping in his bed. Is there anything I can do to help him sleep thru the night? He is 87 yrs old. I'm…
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I knew better
I'm new here so I'm soaking things up and feel I have a lot to share with people that understand. Hopefully all posts here are private and not searchable by google as many things I deal with day to day and experiences I post here can be sensitive and family members that may stumble across my posts will not understand.…
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Soooo not prepared
Less than 2.5 weeks ago I thought our lives were fairly normal. We went to the movies (DH drove) and out to dinner. And now, after 2 weeks in Geri psych he will be heading to memory care. I had no idea he was as far down the rabbit hole as he is. I’m sitting in an empty house. I haven’t lived alone in 43 years (and even…
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Ed...OT
I looked into reviews of google photo and decided it was a no. I will look again. Thanks Judith
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Stewart
In another thread, you said "I chose to use my resources to pay for my dw care instead of upgrading our car. " If you are talking about using that money for spend down, wouldn't you be better off buying yourself a new car? Either way, the money is spent down. But the difference is when you spend it all on her facility, you…
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Retirement $ investing
Need a little help here. Recently our son invested some of our money in several Vanguard low risk for retirees. He is a CPA and talked to a few people, did research. Of course it has gone down, not up. But it is for long term. We will have more money in the near future and DH wants it invested only in Treasuries and I am…
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VENT: Managing Anger
Since DH was discharged from the hospital, he has been receiving Physical Therapy, Occupational Therapy and Nursing from a Home Health Agency (HHA). The doctor also ordered speech therapy and a social worker. Earlier this week, the HHA informed me that the social worker would be coming on Saturday 7/10. Two other employees…
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Anosognosia article link
Here is a link to a good article that I bookmarked when I first became a caregiver. I had forgotten about it until I just happened to see it in a bookmark. Excellent for newbies. https://www.agingcare.com/articles/anosognosia-dementia-patients-cant-recognize-impairment-210090.htm
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Do I need some in-home care? How to introduce a caregiver?
I am sure this topic has been covered before, so please bear with me. My spouse has been diagnosed with MCI more than a year ago. He is getting some neuropsychological testing this week for the second time. He seems worse to be by a fairly significant degree than he did when he was diagnosed. Several family members have…
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Unique Hospice Practice
When talking to the hospice nurse today, I discovered an interesting fact. If a loved one is having a heart attack or any incident needing hospital care, the caregiver must call hospice first to get permission to call for an ambulance. They have the right to say "no." I understand their purpose is for comfort care, but…
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Best Alz. Wander GPS monitoring service
Does anyone use Medical Guardian or Angelsense GPS locator wandering monitoring? If so are either any good ? Thanks for any help or assistance in this matter, my wife has just started wandering. Ron
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My worst fear
Does anyone else lay awake at night thinking about what it would mean if we, caregivers, didn't wake up some morning? Sorry, not trying to sound morbid but it's a genuine concern of mine. Nobody is coming to check on us, my DW would not understand, she wouldn't be able feed herself or the dogs or give them water, she…
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Paying for MC
My wife was federal employee for over 30 years. I was late trying to get her enrolled in the Federal Government's long term care insurance. When I answered the preliminary questions honestly they immediately rejected her. We have some money put away into our retirement accounts but MC will take all of that in a matter of a…
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Vascular dementia(8)
Does anyone have experience with vascular dementia? What is the rate of progression, is there a possibility of improvement, is excessive sleep a symptom? I would know what to expect with Alzheimer’s but vascular dementia is a little different . DH’s short term memory is not too bad but his thinking is sooooo slow and he is…
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DH on hospice. Do we need medicare supplemental and part D?
I'm doing my research and am including this group, because you are the experts! DH has been on hospice for over a year and is in a MC facility. He's late stage 7. Bedbound, hand fed, losing weight, sleeping more, has everything done for him. He has medicare A and B, supplemental plan F and part D for Rx. He also has a DNR…
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Ativan vs. Cannabis
NB: This is not a recommendation, just sharing of experience. My husband with mixed dementia has periods of severe agitation, especially when in unfamiliar places. I have noted the triggers and given him Ativan and cannabis edibles (not together!) and noted the following. Ativan seems to slow everything down and make him…
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M1, have you visited lately?
Just wondering how it went for you. The last I heard, you had a reasonably good visit. Hoping you can say the same or better.
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Natalie Edmonds and the holidays
She has a new 5 day series workshop for caregivers handling the holiday season. https://tinyurl.com/48the6h5
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Most difficult times
DH has been in Memory Care for 2 months. In the past 3 mo he has been taken 4 times via EMS to the hospital to the ER and admitted to the hospital 2 times. ( broken ankle, falling out of bed, falling in the bathroom and the other day for Covid ) He was diagnosed with Covid on Monday and the hospital kept him over night as…
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Stressful days ahead.
My mom, 85 and is showing signs of dementia as well, will be moving back in with my DW and I in a week or two. She doesn't know how to deal with my DW's dementia so it was very stressful the last time she lived with us, 6 months ago, and will be stressful this time as well but we'll get through it.
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I could use a little feedback
After my wife passed, I investigated the possibility of volunteering my time so other caregivers could get a little time for themselves to get a cup of coffee with friends, do some shopping, or whatever. But after talking to others, including a relative who is a lawyer, I decided against that. I was not interested in…
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And now?(1)
Almost 1 month… I took the 3 days leave could have for » familial event ». I used them to prepare the ceremony and the next morning because my mother was still home. Since then I have worked a lot. I have moved a lot for my work (now I can). I was late I most of my tasks… and I am still late. I am also in my souvenirs. On…
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Hospice Accepted My Husband
After my DH's evaluation yesterday, hospice accepted him as a patient. The nurse said that his loss of weight, sleeping more, being tired after small activities, increased agitation, and choking at times were some of his contributing factors to his acceptance. He does present well with strangers, so I was worried he'd have…