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Grief by a 1000 cuts
DW diagnosed two years ago, now about stage 6.6. Family helpful but no one lives in Chicago area where we are. Married 43 years, met in high school. She will start day program 3 days per week next week, will be a big help. Dementia is the road to hell with no information as to how long it will take, and what ultimate…
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recent new signs of progression
DH has been diagnosed with mixed dementia this past year after a brain injury in 2010. He was put on aricept for a few months, but started to lose too much weight and was taken off. Now he is wetting the bed nightly when he was getting himself up and going to pee at night previously. He has also become somewhat of a slob.…
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Happy delayed birthday Iris,
Hope you have many more!
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Cruel and Unusual Punishment
Guilty - Alzheimer's and Dementia
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Buying shares in Clorox and FebreezeI
It was my husband’s birthday today so gave him a piece of chocolate and a bowl of frozen yoghurt. Bad idea, he had another accident, luckily he was wearing depends. However, there was a big mess on the floor.On went the blue heavy rubber gloves, I got stuck in and cleaned the floor up with toilet paper. I washed the floor…
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female resident infatuated with my husband
just need advice on what to do- caring for my husband with alzheimers have gotten too much for me to handle so I made a decision to put him in memory care just a week ago. on the 3rd day- the nurse and the caregivers told me that this female resident has become infatuated with my husband -wants him sitting next to her all…
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Seizures(4)
The last few weeks have been crazy. My wife in MCF had a seizure last week and was in the hospital. I was with her in the ER for 24 hours until there was a bed available. ER seemed cognizant of dementia, but inpatient floor was totally ignorant. I was there in the ER for 24 hours and then 8 hours on the floor. Six hours…
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Hospice guesstimates DH has 2 - 3 weeks
Dh stopped eating and is having difficulty swallowing. The hospice nurse estimates DH has 2-3 weeks before death. I will be surprised if he lasts that long. He is so miserable, that if he goes sooner I'll be okay with that.......but...... Preparations are complete as can be and I don't want him to suffer another second,…
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Respite Care for husband while on vacation in August
Not the best one to write on public forums but need some much-needed advice. I noticed my husband with memory issues for the last 8 years. It took a few years for his family internal medicine doctor to concur. I also started to have my husband see a Senior Health physician who specializes in geriatrics. They seem very…
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binax covid test shelf lie extended
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The other seniors
Seniors are supposed to retire to encore careers or volunteering or extended travel or just doing lots of activity and fun stuff. But a good number of seniors have their own health issues or must become caregivers for their family members with health issues. I am one of the other seniors. I cannot run around like I used…
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I’m crying
I’m trying to maintain my composure, and my sanity, but this morning my husband made that impossible. I just want to vent…and scream. We went to Target for our Covid boosters. His aide joined us. She bought a few groceries and when we came home she started to put them away. Seeing an open refrigerator door, my husband went…
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Young and option-less
Hi all, myself and my girlfriend of eight years are both 24 and we recently began taking care of her Dad who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in early 2021 after being diagnosed with Dementia (not sure what type) for several years prior. He’s quite young at 64, and quite healthy otherwise. We both recently graduated and are…
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Medication success or just a good day?
The doctors added Mentamine to my HWD’s drug regimen, and doubled his anti-depressant about three weeks ago. Today he woke up and is wearing the most radiant smile. We are listening to music (and I now sit with him and we do only that…great to focus) and are having the most lovely time. I hope it lasts. I have respite care…
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His friend is dying
A good friend of my husband and his wife moved to another city about 500 miles away a couple years ago. As his disease is progressing my DH keeps talking about going to visit them telling me they have invited him which isn't the case. I found out today his friend is in ICU with a life threatening disease brought on with…
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Significant decline
In the last week my DH has gone from being continent to needing depends every night and peeing on the floor 3 of the last 6 nights. He also went from me laying out clothes,to me helping him put them on. I also have to tell him to shower and make him get in the shower. He also is having difficulties using utensils when…
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my duty related to brain donation
DH and I are not in agreement related to organ donation, including brain donation. One of us is for it and the other is against it. I am DH's POA. I understand that to mean that I will perform according to his wishes, not my wishes. If brain donation is to happen, it requires my signature since he is no longer able to sign…
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Lynne D
Lynne how are you doing? You have been on heart lately and I hope you are doing okay. I
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Right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing?
Need some advise or you may say I have a question only a caregiver would understand. My DW has developed a new issue in the last week. The issue being she now doesn't know her left hand and arm is part of her. She believes it's some other women or girl interfering with her. This doesn't happen all the time, but it happens…
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finding plan B
It's off, my first choice MCF turned her down. They have another aggressive resident right now and don't want another one. Need for chronic pain meds was another concern. I'm devastated.
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Questions about hospice
My DH has Crohns Disease and Alzheimer's and soon will be 92. He can feed himself, make his own coffee but lately has filled up his Depends, flooded the bathroom because he used too much toilet paper and the toilet overflowed. He loves his sugar and often does not want to eat a healthy meal. He is not on a walker but does…
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Police were called!
My poor DH is having outbursts again. After a few weeks of increased meds to calm him, again, it's starting. Got a call on Monday that he was walking the halls and suddenly grabbed a woman's arm who happened to be beside him and threw her to the ground. No one was hurt, but they had to call me, make a report. You…
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Add me to DH credit card account ?
Is it a good idea to be added on to his American Express card? While paying bills, I was asked if he would like to have a additional member added to his card. Seemed like a good idea at the time. Yesterday a new card in my name with a new credit card number showed up. I don’t think I want to Activate it! However I would…
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When spouse dies
Hello, I know this topic has been discussed before, but I am having trouble finding the posts. My father-in-law (who lives with us) was admitted to in-home hospice care this week. In the past, we have gently told Mom (who lives in a memory care facility) that he has cancer, but lately he has been BRUTALLY honest with her.…
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How to visit MC facilities when I am the sole caretaker
I follow the posts on here that I can mostly relate to, but I do not post a lot after being attacked my first week on this site. That was some years ago but I still become stressed when I write something. This is not anyone's problem here, but mine. My question is, how do I visit MC facilities when I cannot leave my…
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PRICE OF GAS.
REGULAR---ARM PREMIUM--- LEG SUPREME-- BOTH
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Grief(6)
From the Washington Post today; Grief is an experience with no road map. Ask anyone who has lost an immediate family member about grief’s “five stages,” and you’re likely to get a shake of the head. No, grief is more akin to bushwhacking through a gnarly forest. Each of us needs validation that we can cry out from the…
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I lost it
I was working from home today. My husband keeps asking me for food but only eats a few mouthfuls. So I made him an omelet. He ate that. He wanted to go to bed so gave him his pills and got him into bed. He came downstairs, our bathroom is upstairs. He was naked even though I had asked him to keep his depends on. The…
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Wants to go home(2)
DW has said it before and tried to leave . But stopped her and she forgot what she was trying to do. Today she keeps saying she wants to go home. Made it out the door 3 times and I caught her 2 other times. Told her she lives her- no help there. Told her I was her husband and I thought she was mad before. I'm glad I have…
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Dental Blues
DH's upper partial plate broke about three weeks ago. I took him to the dentist and she took an impression and sent the broken plate to a dental lab in Kansas City (about 50 miles south of us) to be repaired. The next week, the plate came back so we went back to the dentist. The plate didn't even come close to fitting and…