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Jiminy Cricket! This day has been exhausting!
I didn't get much sleep last night. DH was restless and we got up multiple times so he could pee. DH is having leg cramps at night which are very painful and they make the trip to the bathroom an ordeal. I try to get him to eat potassium rich food which are supposed to help the crampy...alas I have not yet been effective.…
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Progressing
In the past week my husband has been slowly showing signs of progression. When it was time for him to step into the shower he asked "How do I do that?" I now wash his upper body and hair because he no longer knows how to do that. Has been nodding off while sitting on the couch after breakfast. Usually he stays awake. He's…
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Is this a good idea?
My wife is getting more in the "no" camp. There are things that simply have to be done, and sometimes she absolutely refuses to co-operate. When these times happen, I call our daughter, who has had unbelievable success talking her into doing what must be done. But my wife is getting to the point where even our daughter is…
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Its hot vent but any help
DH isn't diagnosed with MCI or any type of dementia as of right now so I don't post here often. He is an active alcoholic, uncontrolled diabetic, and his mom passed away from Alzheimer's - the dementia trifecta. He has much going on that I feel is the beginning of some type of dementia. With that being said...he has always…
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Desire to go to other house/JohnDoe
My LO has this daily desire to go to our other house, which we don’t have. It can start any time in the day but mostly around dinner and as late as 3am. Some times she will collect a few things to take. It has become very difficult to deal with. Usually a ride around the back roads in the area will distract her, maybe…
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FYI(8)
You may find these interesting. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3CiFk2hP23U https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C11Xd6AuK_k
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Infidelity accusations(2)
One of the most horrible symptoms of Lewy Body Dementia is when your husband accuses you of infidelity. This morning my DH woke up and was extremely angry at me. He repeatedly called me a “prostitute” and said some really vile things regarding his delusions of me being “with other men all night.” He also wanted to hit me.…
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Electric shaver
Can anyone recommend a good electric shaver that actually cuts the whiskers? My DH does not have a heavy beard, but this issue has been a thorn in my side for years. I have a closet-full of mediocre shavers that are going in the trash; some which were not exactly cheap Must one spent over $300 dollars for a decent shaver?…
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No idea where I stand...
My husband was diagnosed with Alz 8 months ago and is probably moving into stage 4 now. We have always had separate money, etc. for our personal things and a joint account for our home expenses. He asked me in January to take over the "our" account and take care of our mutual bills and expenses and I have been doing that…
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What to tell DH about our move.....
We are moving to a house in a senior community. We have lived in our home for over 50 years and I know my husband would be livid if he knew I was planning on moving us. I am sure he will try to run away and go back to our home even though he can't find his way to anything familiar. He can barely walk most days. The kids…
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Thoughts(1)
Aside from realizing that my DH is no longer cognitively the man he was, I’ve come to realize that this disease has caused him to lose empathy. I’m crushed that I will no longer receive comfort from him, that his shoulder is no longer a place to lean on, that his arms will no longer encircle me…
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Really stupid question
My DH is in the early stages. Still drives but his judgement is gone. Yesterday one of my dogs pooped in the house and my husband picked up the poop and put it in the kitchen garbage. When I went to move it into the garage garbage can he flipped out. Screamed, yelled, pushed and started banging on our newly remodeled…
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CBS AD online forum tomorrow
https://twitter.com/cbsnews/status/1432855728654520324?s=21
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$400,000 short
Yesterday we were financially evaluated for MC placement for DH. We are $400,000 short for qualifying. Even though this facility advertises they accept Medicaid, they only accept Medicaid for long term care nursing patients, not assisted living memory care. I wish I had known this prior to sending in the paper work and…
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50 years(1)
50 years ago I spent an evening talking to a second year "math girl" in a stairwell at the University. I knew her slightly. We had both just moved into the first coed dorm. I had been the tour guide when she came in in 1970 and she had dated my roommate for while. But I had never really talked to her. I had met her parents…
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abc and others fighting Ida
I know the worst is over from wind damage, but flooding is still ongoing. Just wondering how you are faring since the weather started becoming bad. How are your folks and other family members? I hope everything was manageable for everyone.
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Something brand new and very scary!
Today was a really hard day all around. Many of you live through worse everyday but today was a first for me. I read all of your posts and although they aren'T sugar coated it doesn't seem real until you actually go through it. My 56 year old HWD has had his ups and downs. Most recently some anger/agression issues which…
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Simple Shindig
DH rarely leaves the house for a couple of reasons. Most days he is not interested in going anywhere. He is generally incontinent now and I am anxious about taking him to an unfamiliar environment. DH still enjoys socializing with friends and family. My Mom will be 82 on 9/1. I had a very small simple shindig for her at…
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Incontinence(6)
My DW has gradually become incontinent. When I try to pull down her soiled pants she fights like the devil. I'm stronger than she is, so eventually brute force wins out. But I'm afraid I might hurt her, and it doesn't help that I get very angry. Sweet talk lost its power long ago. Any ideas?
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Real Hope or Snake Oil?
An online article titled "Is This The End of Alzheimer's?" caught my attention this morning. Do I wish it was real? Absolutely! Do I suspect they may be selling a lot of sizzle rather than the steak? Maybe. But it is worth taking a look at for those of us caring for loved ones with the hideous disease. While this…
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Ivermectin (just in case )
AMA Why ivermectin should not be used to prevent or treat COVID-19 Aug 27, 2021 That is because ivermectin is not approved or authorized by the FDA for COVID-19. Additionally, the National Institutes of Health’s (NIH) COVID-19 Treatment Guidelines Panel determined that there is insufficient evidence and data to recommend…
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Costly nighttime shenanigans
So I woke up this morning to find my partner had been up during the night, saying the air conditioning was making a "funny noise," and she had gone outside at midnight and flipped the breaker because she didn't think it was working right. It was fine when we went to bed. She got mad when I wanted to turn it back on to…
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Found what where!?
We’ve had similar threads before, but I was reminded this week by a few discoveries: I found a bar of soap inside the flour sifter in a kitchen cupboard. I found a very expensive gold bangle bracelet inside a stone retaining wall in the front yard. I found half a peanut butter and jelly sandwich in the bed, on my side!…
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Compassionate Caregiving Visitation Rights
Hi All, I think everyone needs to contact the Department of Health in your state and demand that compassionate caregiving visitation rights be honored regardless of any hospital, nursing home, or rehab facility. I'll keep this short. My DH was taken to the hospital for a possible stroke when he suddenly was unable to…
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Making the move to MC
After months of guilt frustration fear and reality checks. The date has been set the siblings have been notified we managed to survive a family reunion. I tried to back out twice then today I had to lock the back gate and garage while I was mowing the back yard. Then looked up to see my conservative shy DW come out in…
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Mad at myself
I am very new here. My husband gets very confused lately and I think he is starting to get paranoid. He was diagnosed about 1.5 years ago but for me I think he has had Alzheimers for about 5 years but just progressed to where I really noticed it. I think its progressing faster than I thought. I find myself losing it and…
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Panic attack
All day long my heart has been racing and I feel like a disaster is coming. I thought some help would be coming today so I could take a break - apparently not. I don't drink, but I've poured myself something so I can calm myself down. Be prepared - I'm about to whine. With my wine. DH can no longer sit on the toilet…
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Caring and Controlling....There is a Difference
Since my wife was diagnosed with Alz there have been many changes, both with her and with myself. My wife has lost the ability to do the simplest of thing and sometimes even walking can be a problem especially out in public. Here's what I'm getting at. There's a big difference in Caring and Controlling. In my attempt to…
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Who writes at 5 am?
Just joined this forum and have a problem I need help with as have been awake for hours.My DH has been in MC for a few months. When I visit him all he wants is either for me to stay/live there with him or for me to take him out of there. He challenges me with endless questions from the moment I arrive until the time I can…
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Just joined first post Meanness
My DH was diagnosed in Feb of this year with Alzheimer's. I had been concerned about his memory for the past couple of years. My grandmother had it and my aunt also had it so it is not a foreign concept to me. I did lots of research on the stages, what to expect, etc. We had already done our wills and directives three…